Hey.. I need some advice. There is a trmendous amount of information here, and I am trying to sort through it, but I am hoping someone can help or offer advice.
Last year, I met the man of my dreams online. We were just perfect for each other. He lived with his parents though, but decided he wanted to move down here with me. His mother didn't like the prospect of this, and really didn't like me.
I flew up to visit him, and meet his family. Everything seemed ok, except I noticed that this woman COMPLETELY controlled this family's every action. Even those of people not living with her. She intimidates them, I think. I knew she had an odd control over my boyfriend, btu I didn't realize it was like this.
Anyway, we had the most amazing week together and he asked me to marry him. We were.. happy.
So I go back home. He goes back to his parents. His mother IMMEDIATELY isolates him. She literally swipes his cell, doesnt allow ANYONE (including his own brother) to call him on the house phone, has net disconnected... there are other things, but she made some serious threats and had him scared.
Then he calls me a few days after I leave and is babbling. Literally. He is making no sense but he gets out that he has "been shown" how I was trying to "destroy the family" and "couldnt be trusted" and that "the family is all that matters. we have to preserve the family".
I was devastated, as anyone would be. that was about 3 weeks ago. I couldnt figure out this mood swing. Then I found out, he had a mental breakdown and has been in a mental hospital for about 2 weeks.
I have looked at alot of information on thought reform and other tactics used by cults... and it fits this woman to a T..
I want to know how to help my boyfriend get over this. His brother, and sisterinlaw, basically said that that was not him that told me all that crap on the phone. Considering I could hear his mom literally feeding him words... I can believe that.
Thanks in advance
Sounds like my mother.
Sorry to hear that.