Ohr sameyach - i need help
Date: May 15, 2006 09:27PM
I'm really glad that I discovered this forum. My problem is as follows:
It succeded the Ohr Sameyach rabbis to convert my brother to be an ultra-orthodox Jew. Before he went at their seminar, he had a lot of humor and was a big football fan, and I always went to the matches with him. Now however he has no sense of humor, and thinks that football is the worst kind of lightheadedness that exists.
He doesn't only want to keep it for himselves, but he also wants others to follow his way. I mistakenly accepted to go to a rabbi every week to be taught about ultra-orthodox Judaism, and he puts pressure on me to keep rituals. I don't keep them, but cos I was so week, I said that I do. And know I can't come out of this.
They want me to be shomer negiyah (not to touch women), and all other kinds of things. I don't know how to end this, and this is really bothering me. My brother was a very rational person, but now he accepts everything they tell him. In the beginning the Ohr rabbis told him how rational UO judaism was, and how everything actually fits with science. But after he was infiltrated, they said that nothing fits with science, and the only thing the scientists are doing is to disprove their religion (but they wont succed!).
He never trusted in anyone, but now he accepts their words as laws. They must really be good in indoctrination, cos he was really critical before he went their.
He wants me to join an AISH seminar this year, but I doubt. Should I go there or would it be a good idea to refuse? I mean if I go there with a critical mind, and just have a lot of disproves with me, am I then not in safety?
Can I at all do anything to get him back? He is getting more and more stricter, and now 3 years have passed since the first time he got there, and I feel like theres nothing to do. I can't speak to him about anything else than the religion, and how I should try to keep more things. I would never consider them a cult, before visiting this site, and saw how a cult is defined.
Please help me!