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Date: December 21, 2004 12:33PM
Yes, unconditionally.
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From: Seminar Leader
To: rcotton
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Subject: Session Three
Date: Friday, December 10, 2004 8:10 PM
I'm sorry rcotton
That's apparently that's my hook. I heard "sales pitch" as derogatory and
felt invalidated after pouring my heart and soul into this seminar. I
apologize for making assumptions about what you said.
I guess I'm being challenged by the possibility of being racket free too
today! (You know, being racket free = being a clearing for life in which
life doesn't occur as something you have to react to or as something from
your past). I made up something about what you said, got my feelings hurt,
and then reacted.
Do you accept my apology?
Seminar Leader
-----Original Message-----
From: Rcotton
Sent: Friday, December 10, 2004 7:19 PM
To: Seminar Leader
Subject: Session Three
"Sales pitch" has no derogatory or negative meaning for me. I respect what
you said in your email and it is complete for me. Thanks Seminar Leader.
rcotton
----Original Message-----
From: Seminar Leader
To: rcotton
Subject: Session Three
Date: Friday, December 10, 2004 6:32 PM
,
Thank you for taking this on and re-creating the seminar for two participants
I found myself hooked by your comments about "sales pitches" to the guests
and about sharing the Landmark Forum. I'm not a sales person - I don't get
paid nor do I get commissions. However, inside of the distinction of the
seminar, I'm committed to giving up being righteous about this. I simply
want to communicate that I offer myself, my time and my love freely inside a
commitment to making a difference for you, the other participants and humanity. I request that you listen me, and listen each part of the seminar
being delivered, inside the commitment that each person have the possibility
of power, freedom and full self-expression as a reality in their lives - it
will empower the seminar and you'll find yourself getting value out of
every section as well.
I'm certainly available to have a conversation about this if you are would
like or if you are left in any way incomplete with my communication.
Again, I acknowledge you for stepping in and taking on being a leader.
Seminar Leader
-----Original Message-----
From: Rcotton
Sent: Friday, December 10, 2004 6:05 PM
To: Another Participant
Subject: Notes from Session #3
D -
My notes from Thursday. JTK & RE copied. I won't distribute to others.
Look forward to our chat Sat AM.
Regards,
rcotton
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Session #3
Intentions - See bottom of Session #3 Assignment handout (attached).
Several people late.
One person shared about experience with integrity practice during prior
week.
Sales pitch to guest.
Seminar Member shared experience from past week being authentic in
relationship with spouse. Resulted in creating possibility to be employed
and self-sufficient.
24 unexplained absences. Seminar Leader asked if we are "being present"
with the "feeling of a missing." Seminar Leader said "They are having a loss of
power with their being in integrity." Discussion of integrity in relation to
attendance followed. Seminar Leader restated concern as "we have less power
because they are not here."
Seminar Members read the Intentions.
Seminar Leader asks - Who is seeing rackets? Who is seeing the loss of
power? See the variety & pervasiveness of rackets.
Rackets are rooted in loss of integrity.
Seminar Member and Seminar Leader interacted about relationship between
Integrity and Rackets.
Seminar Member shared three areas of life where rackets related to loss of integrity.
Sharing with Seminar Partner re: assignments from last session.
Seminar Leader - Let's look at how the Landmark Forum works because the
Seminar works the same way. You are the source of the realties and transformations that come from the Landmark Forum and the Seminar. Seminar Leader read the entire "The Way the Landmark Forum Works" billboard which hangs in the front of the Seminar Room. Seminar Leader emphasized the last statement on the billboard - possibilities
you create are made actual by enrolling others in your having gotten.
Seminar Leader lectured about being ordinary related to inauthenticity. Seminar
Leader encourages us to distinguish these and identify the specific impacts
of being that way. That is, distinguish where in life you are being ordinary
and inauthentic and distinguish the impact of this. Once these are
distinguished, possibilities are revealed/begin to arise. Many things begin
to change: view of the world around us, view of self, language we use to
describe our lives and the actions we take in life. "Possibilities live where you are."
What expands this? Enrolling others. Power expands when you enroll others.
Others who are enrolled provide support and momentum. Enrollment is not
convincing, not explaining, not manipulation, justification or domination.
It is causing new possibilities to be present for another so that they are
touched, moved and inspired by that possibility. In enrollment conversations, the past gets complete. The purpose is that YOU get it, not that they get it. When others are truly touched, moved and inspired, they will listen in an entirely new way. When others start to relate to you as the possibility you have enrolled them in, the power of enrollment is present. An enrollment conversation is not just "I want this." It is about inventing a way of being that others relate to. When you invent a possibility and enroll others in it, you gain access to results. Can be very difficult. Transformation is not easy.
Seminar Leader analogy. Gold is under dirt. The dirt is in the way. You have to dig through the dirt to get to the gold. Being responsible for the dirt is the digging. Making yourself wrong about something is wallowing in the dirt. Can't get to the gold by wallowing, only by digging.
We get stuck in Enrollment Conversations when we try to "figure out" the conversation in advance. Just have the conversation and let go of the concern.
Practice Enrollment Conversations. Try not to use Landmark Forum lingo such as inauthentic, input, enroll, more, better, different. Practice to develop enrollment skills. Practiced for 3 minutes with Seminar Partner.
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Seminar Leader - Let's talk about Distinctions. "Committed to being racket free" is the distinction we want to concentrate on now. We've talked about two distinctions. Integrity and being racket free.. Rackets are not bad and they are not good. They are just a way of being. They are ordinary. They are survival strategies. Being extraordinary is more then just surviving. Rackets are destructive. When you look at how much of life is devoted to
rackets, they become opportunities. Look back at the first handout and see in your answers to the questions there where rackets are involved.
Seminar Leader reminded everyone to bring notebook, paper, pencil/pen and the handout labeled BEX #1 (seven questions) to every session.
Practice session - look at your answers to each of the seven questions and see if you can find the racket in each one. Write down the common complaint and the persistent way of being for each. Reflect on your answers and see if you can identify the cost of running each racket. Write that down.
What would life be like in these areas if you were completely racket free?
Express what would be different.
How do we achieve the life of being racket free? After all, the rackets are protecting you against something you perceive as threatening. How can you live without them. Identify specific actions to practice in your life to be come racket free. Write them down and do it.
You have an opportunity to choose what you are going to be in life. Choosing to be racket free means catching yourself when you are doing it and stop. "Give it up."
Seminar Leader invited a Landmark Forum leader to come up and share. Landmark Forum leader is training to be a Landmark Education Center Manager.
Practice to be racket free. Call a friend - someone you trust – talk about your rackets and declare yourself to be off it. The most powerful way to be racket free is to give up being right even when you know that you are right. Complaints don't have reality around them. Don't assess or judge the practice. Take it on and practice it. Give up the right to be right.
Come to next sessions ready to share about your practice.
Being racket free. Add this practice to your practice of restoring integrity. Take on both practices. We will add new practices as the seminar progresses.
You can share your commitment with others by enrolling them in a conversation about the Landmark Forum. Seminar Leader asked the group rhetorically - "Why would I do this?" Then did the usual pitch for talking about Landmark Forum with others for about the next ten minutes.
Reviewed homework - see attachment.
Broke out into groups.
Adjourned.
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