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Sparky
hattah, thats the problem...
As you said "Any man with a grain of sense would run!",
but the men who are attracted to this crap clearly have self-worth issues. What I mean is they don't feel like a man, don't feel they are in control of their lives, have limited experience with women, have no girlfriend/wife, are vulnerable (just lost job, got dumped by girlfriend/wife) etc.
The Sons of Maine/Sterling are playing to the baser desires in the male libido.
Hi sparky :)
I don't quite know what to do about this. Not in my power to make it go away.
It is my daughter that is involved with a man who belongs to this group. I think at first she just wanted to know what the big 'secret' was so she had me do some digging. Maybe she wanted a good "aren't men weird chuckle" When I found the info that I found she went into overdrive at first and then she started trying to paint everything a different color. Fingers in ears Lalalalala if you know what I mean. So I dropped it.
Now he is headed for another "MEN"S" weekend (I just have to capitalize that word now lol) and her red flags are all flying again. Wants to know about 50 dollar tips/long term /short term relationships. I have finally convinced her that MDI,Sterling, and this Maine group are all the same 'club'.
On one hand she says, and she is right, that not everyone is affected in the same manner. And then she thinks if she is 'long term' then that is okay. But she also wants to know if THE MEN think it is alright if you mess around.
I think they say it isn't.......but what it is in actuality is 'don't get caught because then we will have to process you'
She has a 10 year old child.
I do not need a stroke over this.
I need desperately to find some middle ground.
My theory is if your gut and your bowels keep cramping up about something STOP eating it, doing it, living with it, and all is good.
But I have no control over any of this.
They don't live together.......yet.
She says she will NEVER do the women's weekend. period. She is very strong minded in a lot of ways. Not "June Cleaver" by a long shot. And the fact that she may be okay with this if her LABEL is Long Term committed makes me sick. It is not how she was raised to think of women.
My biggest fear now is that THE MEN scope out these sites and I don't think it would take much to put two and two together.
I just want to hide in the closet.
:(