Question Lady, I am sorry for the pain you (and your husband??) are going through. I wish you the best.
I was struck by your user name - "disconnect". I'm not sure what that means to you, but "disconnected" is exactly how my husband seems when he is "releasing". He seems disconnected from himself and others and reality. It looks like it feels good, but it doesn't seem healthy to me.
Disconnect[ed] is the name of a song I liked to play a lot in In the Groove.
I really like what you wrote about narcissism, rswinters. I took a look inside and discovered that narcissism was a serious force in my earlier development. I was so self centered! Thanks for the heads up, and be sure to check yourself as well (... if you want :)
Take Care all y'all!