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THe person suggested I try to see child abuse as a lesson which is helpful if I survived it.
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As for my brother, I do not like the fact that he goes to the RS site but upon reflection perhaps he's the least likely fellow to suffer much harm there. For my mother I think things are much worse.
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THe person suggested I try to see child abuse as a lesson which is helpful if I survived it.
To be clear, I am obviously not defending the new age ninnies in any way.
But Victor Frankl had some good ideas about how to give "meaning" to human tragedies, like the Holocaust, etc.
His basic idea is that a person can existentially modify the "meaning" of human tragedy.
That is similar to parts of REBT and CBT.
so for those who have gone through difficult things, especially as children, they can modify them somewhat in various ways.
One way, is to try and find some "meaning" in it.
So perhaps, for someone who had a terrible childhood, the exposure to brutality may have made the person more sensitive to the plight of others who need help.
I can see some of that sounds like the same crap those folks are pushing, but personally, I found Victor Frankl to have some excellent practical stuff. To find a "meaning for the suffering" does help.
This is not like Landmark where it says you can make anything mean anything.
Or The Secret that says, you brought it on yourself to learn a spiritual lesson.
More like... in life, some random and painful shit happens to good people. Some get it sooner, some get it later, but pretty much everyone gets nailed.
So perhaps experience suffering and pain, can make one more empathic to the suffering and pain of others...or appreciate the simple things in life...or effect social change..etc.
But I think a person has to think that stuff through on their own.
It seems most of the crap for sale, has a grain of truth in it, and a few helpful tips, but they get obscured by the moneymaking, lies, and salesmanship.
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... some of the New Thought type of ideas might simply be [b:92df00ccf2]the mistake of taking a mythological image, and taking it literally[/b:92df00ccf2].
For instance, the idea that one day Man will have Godlike Powers, is sorta coming true in metaphorical ways.
Take a single man in a loaded Harrier Jet, to a primitive man he would be a literal God, as he could destroy a city single handed.
Or gene-therapy might extend our life-spans, and various technologies can "mimic" certain types of "powers", and in the future, who knows what will be possible. That can be contained in what is called Transhumanism.
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I agree with the idea about dealing with the aftermath of child abuse, much later in life. I was asking these people about the Laws of Attraction and how they apply to the child currently in an abusive situation, an infant being neglected. They couldn't answer, but came up with all kinds of convoluted talk about karma, learning lessons, making up stories. When I asked if, since the Laws of Attraction are laws, would they apply to everyone, and the response to that was that I was the one doing the magical thinking and isn't it just like a human being to want a law to apply to everything.
During a conversation about 9-11, one person mentioned that since we choose to be Americans, we attracted 9-11. I pictured a mass exodus to northern Canada, in the middle of the night.
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The Secret? It's Out, It's Old, and It's Obvious
Joan Z. Shore 02.21.2007
What has seized America? Not a new guru, not a new sect, but a little group of people who claim to have discovered, and are now promulgating, the Secret of the Ages.
This is no small claim. And yet their formula is embarrassingly simplistic: "Like Attracts Like."
This is not brain surgery or quantum physics.
It is the Power of Positive Thinking all over again. It is Werner Erhard, Tony Robbins and Deepak Chopra all rolled into one. Only, it has been given a short, catchy name and it has been launched at a time in our world where everyone is looking for a rapid answer and a quick fix.
We do not have time to read philosophy, to engage in esoteric discussions, or to formulate theories. Even psychotherapy is too long and too costly an undertaking. We want the ready-made, the microwaved, the heat-and-serve, the wash-and-wear; we do not want to be bothered with serious study and careful analysis. We want answers at a discount, nicely packaged and ready to go.
And that's what The Secret is all about. Oprah Winfrey and her audiences ate it up. The mail in response was off the charts. The book jumped to Number One on the New York Times bestseller list, and the DVD is selling like heavenly hotcakes.
After the Old Testament and the New Testament, The Secret is the Ultimate Testament. It is The Gospel According to Rhonda Byrne (the author, an ingenuous Australian woman) and her peppy band of disciples. It promises not salvation but, better yet, wealth and success and happiness and love. Maybe health, too, if that's your problem. Just stop thinking you're a jerk and a failure, and begin to see yourself as infinitely powerful and talented and gorgeous and wise. Then everything wonderful and enriching and gorgeous and wise will come to you.
Clearly, it is time for the Dalai Lama and Rabbi Berg and his Kabbalists to hang up their hats. We are on the threshold of a New-New Age, where we can manifest (The Secret's favorite word) whatever we desire by focusing our minds on it. Of course, it should not be selfish or nasty or harmful to others. (I imagine this to be true; Ms. Byrne does not discuss the ethical implications of misuse of The Secret, or the possible repercussions of evil intent.)
Anyway -- throw away your credit cards, tear up your diplomas, quit your boring job, and focus on the money, the work, the home, the spouse you really want. It will come to you. No hassle. No effort.
No kidding?
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The Secret? It's Out, It's Old, and It's Obvious
Joan Z. Shore 02.21.2007
What has seized America? Not a new guru, not a new sect, but a little group of people who claim to have discovered, and are now promulgating, the Secret of the Ages.
This is no small claim. And yet their formula is embarrassingly simplistic: "Like Attracts Like."
This is not brain surgery or quantum physics.
It is the Power of Positive Thinking all over again. It is Werner Erhard, Tony Robbins and Deepak Chopra all rolled into one. Only, it has been given a short, catchy name and it has been launched at a time in our world where everyone is looking for a rapid answer and a quick fix.
We do not have time to read philosophy, to engage in esoteric discussions, or to formulate theories. Even psychotherapy is too long and too costly an undertaking. We want the ready-made, the microwaved, the heat-and-serve, the wash-and-wear; we do not want to be bothered with serious study and careful analysis. We want answers at a discount, nicely packaged and ready to go.
And that's what The Secret is all about. Oprah Winfrey and her audiences ate it up. The mail in response was off the charts. The book jumped to Number One on the New York Times bestseller list, and the DVD is selling like heavenly hotcakes.
After the Old Testament and the New Testament, The Secret is the Ultimate Testament. It is The Gospel According to Rhonda Byrne (the author, an ingenuous Australian woman) and her peppy band of disciples. It promises not salvation but, better yet, wealth and success and happiness and love. Maybe health, too, if that's your problem. Just stop thinking you're a jerk and a failure, and begin to see yourself as infinitely powerful and talented and gorgeous and wise. Then everything wonderful and enriching and gorgeous and wise will come to you.
Clearly, it is time for the Dalai Lama and Rabbi Berg and his Kabbalists to hang up their hats. We are on the threshold of a New-New Age, where we can manifest (The Secret's favorite word) whatever we desire by focusing our minds on it. Of course, it should not be selfish or nasty or harmful to others. (I imagine this to be true; Ms. Byrne does not discuss the ethical implications of misuse of The Secret, or the possible repercussions of evil intent.)
Anyway -- throw away your credit cards, tear up your diplomas, quit your boring job, and focus on the money, the work, the home, the spouse you really want. It will come to you. No hassle. No effort.
No kidding?