Hi leftcoast, nice to hear from you again.
When I first read what your friend wrote, I had to chuckle. That is so LE, it sounds like a script. Probably is, and if not a boilerplate one, surely one that was developed with a coach, as midonov mentioned. Humor is so necessary when dealing with a Lekkie. Let yourself see the humor, even as you scratch your head. You'll need it so stay sane.
What I see is she is blaming you, but realizes it is not very LEC to blame you. Afterall, she is 100% responsible for the life she is creating for herself, which includes the friendship with you. Since she created it, and is responsible for it, how can she blame you?? That would be the LEC line, but the I'm-a-flesh-and-blood-real-human-being-in-the-real-world reaction she is having is that YOU are responsible (whether you are or not), and that dissonance is making her head explode. The real world isn't following the LEC script, and she has to make it fit. As Hope says:
Instead of discussing the problem like adults, she's stuck in distracting Landmark nonsense about you being "wrong".
I think she can't see you until she makes it fit because she can't lose LEC face. All her scripts and all her training can't make this work, so I suspect she has to get coached until she can make it work, and appear as the enlightened Lekkie. Otherwise, why would you want to join? :) This is where the regression comes in again. LEC gives them "tools," but it seems they get hooked on the tools and not on the real skills the tools would normally develop. For example, my friend was fond of accusing me of not hearing her. Her only was of communicating in a "hearing" way was to parrot everything I said back to me (to show she "heard" what I said -- which BTW I would challenge), and she expected me to do the same for her. That is fine to a point, but she could not move beyond this tool to understand that "hearing" is about showing a genuine interest, not being defensive, and valuing the person. It's not about the tool, it's about the skills the tool develops. Otherwise, African Greys would be charging $200/hr. for theapy, and people would gladly pay. When I was in kindergarten, I learned to make block letters as a first step in writing. I've moved on now. Lekkies can't seem to move on from the tools. Adults learn from the tools and move forward. She is not learning the skill to have a real conversation with you.
My friend's reaction was to blame me for the breakup of our relationship. She too, "made me wrong," and I did not hesitate to point out how un-LEC this was.
While it certainly is sad on one level, see the humor.