Re: What should I replace Landmark with?
Date: April 11, 2012 06:57AM
I had trouble with the empty and meaningless part of the Forum too. I gave myself freedom to do what I want after the Forum - surrendered to myself and myself only. For about 3+ years, I did the worst imaginable things to my marriage.
I did this before the Forum too, albeit at a slower pace and more covertly and less brazenly. After the Forum, I lost all regard for my commitment to my wife and did anything I could get away with, and got away with a lot.
That was my initial impression of 'empty and meaningless.' In the ILP, all I found out is that nothing changed and that I was still the same asshole I was prior to it. I refused to surrender to another person, and had it my way, all the way. You don't like my way? Take the highway!
Nothing while I was doing Landmark helped me surrender. Maybe I "did it wrong". What did work, is giving my life over to God. People have many Gods, so to be specific, Jesus Christ. Only then I began to experience power and repentance from my sinning.
Landmark did nothing but show me that I could remain an asshole and be fine with it my entire life. Maybe if I had actually gone through with the ILP as it was intended to, I would have experienced something else, but I botched that too. Probably on purpose, as I did everything else. Surrendering to their way of being... at the time, didn't seem to be the right calling for me.
My suggestion is that you begin to replace Landmark with being an authentic Christian. That will take you to where you want to go - probably not in the way you want to, but it will, if you are willing to surrender to Christ. This can be even more challenging than a Landmark course, I warn you, however, it will be at a pace that you can handle. In my view, after you do the Forum and the Advanced Course, you should -run- to the church and look there for solutions to your issues on tried and tested truths that have not changed for eons. Use your Landmark "knowledge" to comprehend the Judeo-Christian value system and start to surrender to it. Only then will you experience freedom, real freedom, meaning and purpose, for even such blessings come from God.
I suggest against asking for a refund - not because they won't give it to you, but because you will trade whatever you got out of the Forum - however negative the experience was for you - for your old life. Remember, you signed up for it willingly, while thinking of a specific issue you want to address. Sometimes we have to go through the "negative" before we get to the "positive" side of things. If there was something that was bugging you prior to the Forum - that is what will show up the minute you ask for the refund in your life, with even more intensity this time around though, and won't let you be. You may feel relieved if you got your money back - which they will give you back, but you will be trading that for your old life, old issues, prior to walking into the Forum.
At least now you are a step ahead of where you were in dealing with life's issues - whatever those are for you... and I suggest you surrender to God instead of Landmark Education from now on, for all solutions to your problems.