If I didn't mention this already, you might want to check out [www.DrIrene.com
] for references on emotional and verbal abuse, narcissism, codependency. There is a forum called The Catbox which might be of help. Most of the people who post have been in relationships with narcissists, have been on the receiving end of very covert manipulation, etc. There are several forums, but the one to read is The Catbox, and there is a link on the horizontal menu at the top of the home page.
I can send you the Mary Ann Borg Cunen article, as well. When I posted it here, I saw my personal info on the top so I deleted it.