First off, I can not speak to what it is like to be bipolar. I have known people who have emotional issues (that could quite possibly been due to being bipolar), but no one was diagnosed. But that doesn’t mean I can’t speak to your post.
Bipolar disorder is not an "emotional issue" although it does affect the emotions. It is an imbalance in the brain chemistry that is not due to some
moral failing on the part of the victim.
But they are the parent. You are the child. They are helping you. What do you expect?
The form the "help" comes in may not be as honest as it would appear. An extreme case is found in the Munchausen Syndrome By Proxy. While a lot of parents do not go to that extreme, many do participate in a false helpfulness in where they only wish to appear to be helpful and actually exacerbate problems by being overly critical of their offspring. If things turn out well, the parent gets to look like a hero. If it doesn't, they get sympathy for enduring such a hardship.
It’s like what “Wright Again” wrote in his explanation – circular as well. He, I’m assuming he is a he…sorry if I’m wrong, sounds to be upset because his parents made no plans for college (join the club) despite the fact that they made a fair amount of money.
Then goes on to say that there was a complicated issue with him being claimed as a depended on taxes thus disqualifying him for financial aid. But then goes on to say that Emancipation occurred eventually. So….if he wasn’t emancipated – he couldn’t not have been dropped from taxes as a depended because he was a depended.
So he sounds to be upset over an issue with how the tax law is written – not with his parents. But blames his parents for the tax laws (and how the financial aid guides are written). Circular.
He goes on to make the same mistake a lot of people who are mad at God (or religion in general) make….telling what the bible is saying about life – versus telling what the bible is saying about your personal walk with the lord.
“The Bible teaches us to help each other in any way we can, especially our immediate family”….where? Where exactly does it say that? It doesn’t. It doesn’t even come close to saying anything of the such.
Try out 2 Corinthians 12:14, "Behold, the third time I am ready to come to you; and I will not be burdensome to you: for I seek not yours, but you: [b:12ff2e0573]for the children ought not to lay up for the parents, but the parents for the children.[/b:12ff2e0573]"
Not sure about what you are reading, but the Bible is full verses pertaining to personal relationships. You might also try reading the James and Ruth.
My complaint is not so much at my parents, it's more at a system that puts college out of reach for many people without financial aid. I went to work 2 weeks out of highschool and moved out at the same time. I've taken a lot of effort to get my education and it's been a rocky road with a lot of time away from my studies just trying to keep a roof over my head. But when I move 400 miles and set up for college after my dad writes me a letter telling me he'll support me...then he doesn't. I was left scrambling to get tuition/housing paid.
Lesson learned...I'm just not that important to him.
Although I will wholeheartedly agree with the buying of buildings and trips and money and greed…all that is a bunch of hogwash as well…but all of that is secondary to the point where we are at this moment, which is personal responsibility.
Ultimately – parents are people too. Just because they gave birth to us and raised us…went to work everyday and fed us, clothed us, protected us…and in some ways…loved us – does not make them infallible. They are people.
As our parents they deserve respect. They deserve our love for no other reason but because they are our parents. Oh…the bible does say that, though. Maybe you have heard of it. It’s one of those commandments.
Indeed, it is one of those things I alluded to in my post as to how I deal with them today. It is one of the commandments from Exodus and it is also found in Colossians 3 [b:12ff2e0573]"20 Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. 21 Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged."[/b:12ff2e0573]
Pretty sure that Lori isn't going to read what you wrote.