Re: Ole Nydahl and Diamond Way Buddhism
Date: October 08, 2019 12:36AM
I was on the diamond way for 6 years. My boyfiend was in the sangha. He was a very nice guy – at the beginning. He took me there. First time I met Ole on a teaching, I didn’t like it at all. I just had a very bad feeling, and I told him, I do not want to be part of this. He was out of his mind, when I was giving him bad review about the event, I have never seen him like this before. His reaction should have been a red flag and I should have get out of that relationship but I already loved my boyfriend. Later I realised, if you give and criticism about Ole Nydahl personality, his thoughts, his teachings, his relationships with women, etc. everyone was out of their mind, and it was better to shut up.
After I fittted into the DW, didn’t question anything any more, made friendships in the sangha, my boyfriend calmed down. I was sufficiently brainwashed. I never questioned Ole again, I accepted everything, he said, I just wanted to have finally a „family”, people, who likes me, accepts me. (Guess, I was a perfect person to a cult, no healthy family boundaries, feeling very lonely.) I had two kinda good years. I had a boyfriend, friends, first in my life I was travelling a lot (to DW courses of course), I was working in the Sangha (for free.) After I fitted 100% into DW and my boyfriends became abusive with me. He was yelling at me, pulled me, tousled me, and once a while slapped me. But the worst was the psychological terror, that I am not good enough, I am such a terrible person that I should be happy that he is so generous to live with me. Well, he was medatitating for many years this time, and that was the level… The buddhism starts where psychology ends says Ole… Really? Anyway, my life turned into a nightmare, I was shocked, mentally instable, anxious all the time. When we were in the sangha, he was the perfect gentleman, when noone was watching, he was a monster. But I couldn’t pretend, i was hysterical, cried any moment, shaking, so in the sangha he was the pure perfection, and I was hysterical. I got no help at all. By this time, I had no friends „outside”, I was isolateted, he got my little money as well, I had no family to go. I really sucked. After 3 more years in the suffering, I asked Ole’s and travelling teachers advice. The answer was this is our karma, leave him, and Ole wishes me all the best and keep me in his mind. After we broke up, and moved out, I asked Ole what to do with an islam guy who wanted to abuse me and my flatmate, Ole said go to he police, report etc. When my boyfriend made me much worse things than this for years, this was just a karma…
I could get out my relationship, I started my life all over from nothing after 30. I was so threatened from my (ex)boyfriend, that I did not go the sangha back. I still needed 2 more years to get rid of the brainwash… I still idolized Ole and the DW for a while, because I was so amazingly brainwashed that living in an abusing relationship it is just a karma, what I deserverd, while he was fully accepted there, because giving donations, helping there. And I should be a better person than I can go back to the sangha. He even dated an other girl after me in the DW, noone cared my story. I lost even all my friends, after I didn’t go in, noone contacted me. Even my female sangha friends denied me after I did not go into the sangha, and questioned Ole and they are going to courses with my abusing ex, smiling in selfies like nothing happened. Cause somehow I deserved it, you know… That was my karma, as my „friends” and travelling teachers told me so. I was very lucky, that I get out of there, with no money in my pocket (my ex took it) and nowhere to go. I could manage somehow to get a cheap room, finally make friends out of the DW, and last-last found a very nice and caring boyfriend. Now I can see clear, that Ole might not be a Buddha, he is a person, who thinks he is some kind of God, just like his students, and I am way much happier and balanced, when I was back in the DW. And no matter what you do, You can even abuse your partner, if you don’t question Ole, the sangha, you donate and you work in the DW. Noone cares.