I started a blog with the intention of starting a charity but for now it is going to have to be only a means to raise public awareness about things important to myself and my neighbors. I found myself inspired the past week to write of each of my abusive relationships, how they affected me and my children, the path of destruction that my life continued to be until recently. Sometimes people are i
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Ok, had to step back from the overwhelming barage about abusiveness, lol. I was just offering the hope of a potential opportunity for healing for goodness sake! lol In my case, it was the opposite extreme which led to my oldest daughter's dysfunctions and her extreme personality change. Yes, she witnessed me being abused emotinally, though I protected and defended her absolutely, which is
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You have my empathy. My family turned against me to help my exes take two of my children away from me and the lot seduced a third away with horses, vehicles, and money. I cannot tell you what to do, we all have our own journey. I did leave in the end and have now returned after ten years of getting myself straight with God and letting Him straighten out my head. I honestly don't feel I coul
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Quotesecond hand cult: The mind can tell the body, "you need to heal." But when the mind is injured, the body can't return the favor.[/quote I like this part. I, too, was never affected by physical assaults as I was by spiritual, emotional, intellectual ones. When the body is assaulted, we can say it has been assaulted. The definition of assault is universally accepted and con
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I see.
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Becoming easily offended is a symptom I no longer exhibit, thanks be to God who is so gracious! lol No, no offense what-so-ever. One of my goals this past summer was what I called allowing my children to live an emotionally honest life.....a need I was given to perceive after observing the imporatnce of it in living fearlessly and healthily......what you quoted Alice Miller as referring to as
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TaitenandProud, Thank you for responding. I will probably see if that book is available at the local library when I can. I have noticed what you stated, that yes, we have to pretty much take the steps from here to there on our own. And I do not doubt the brain being programmed, on a physical level even. As I have progressed in relating with other people I notice my own thought processes, ho
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peace be with you, I understand how desperate we can feel when wanting to help family. My sister is a drug addict and it kills me to see what she is doing. I have only been back almost a year after being away from family for ten, but already, the degree of emotional well-being I have achieved, incited my sister to say something to me unexpected. i didn't think my presence was helping he
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Peace be with you, I just wanted to share some love and encouragement with those who have made/are making the journey through high control relationships. I was raised very abusively. I thought I found loving family amongst Jehovah's Witnesses, but only met with the same things everyone else does in high control relationships; alienation, judgement, etc. Read all the books on cult reco
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