The bottom line for me is that it's important for people who have been traumatized to share their story - in forums like this, with their loved ones, journaling,...anyway they can. There is psychological research that shows that sharing the narrative of past trauma, to the best of our ability, supports the healing process.
We'll never know what happened, only Heather and JS know the
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