Sexually Abusive Therapy?
Date: April 17, 2005 07:12AM
Sexually abusive counsellors are bad news. The role of counsellor is a powerful one, especially when dealing with vulnerable people. They can break you, and then walk away with impunity. Anything you say is just part of your delusions! Ten years ago, I was getting off hard drugs, and briefly attended a drug rehab project. There was however one female counsellor (J) in the project who was drawn to me, and me to her. Knowing this as J must have, she expressed 'interest' in my artistic activities and suggested that she become my 'personal counsellor'. There then followed a pattern of J getting me on my own in her company, in positions that made her powerful and me vulnerable. We also lived in the same area, and J would play sexual mind games with me every time we met. I was left bursting with unrequited desire. I remember J deliberately playing footsie with me in one 'session', and then immediately flipping it round to 'what is your problem? How do you feel about that?' Of course, I suspected that my speaking to other counsellors about this covert abuse would be dismissed, and I felt disadvantaged by the fact that I was a male. Who would believe me? I actually had a mental breakdown over it. So after this I decided to cure myself, so did not attend the project again. It was a long haul, but I made it. Yet I often think about J even now, and wonder what the hell must have been going on in her head.
Maybe this doesn't help you, Worried Sick, but if J had pushed it further, I might have been in the same state as your partner is now. I think it may be easier for a woman to claim sexual malpractice, so if you can win your partner round, then you may stand a better chance of achieving justice.