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tsukimoto
Von, welcome to the thread. I too would love to hear more of your experiences with SGI. I've found the sharing here so helpful. It's hard to discuss my SGI experiences with people who have not been in SGI. I sometimes wonder if they think I'm making things up!
tsuki ...
Yes, your posts in particular really drive it home for me. I read you and found myself sitting here thinking "oh yeah! totally lol .. that's
exactly what I went through".
First time I had actually heard - or read someones experience - that laid out the truth of what I experienced with the organization. I remember thinking back then "wow .. am I the only one here that sees the obvious?" ... but yet still putting aside my doubts, continued to practice to the best of my ability, continued to "challenge my negativity" and do the activities
regardless of my common sense ..
.. and continually making excuses for the things that I saw and experienced that were not adding up.
The story of how I finally went "taitan" in LA:
I was new to LA in 1985 - moved there from New York to study music and play in rock bands. And I had nothing, owned nothing. No money, no property, had withdrawn from college in my sophmore year to move out there on my own.
I had no family or long term friendships there. I was completely alone in a huge city at the age of 20.
So after recieving my gohonzon at the LA Temple sometime in 2006, and encouragement that not only would it help me survive and bring me what I needed to get by day by day, it could "make my dreams come true. With these things in mind I began a journey of almost 3 years of hard practice.
SGI became pretty much my entire social life, and my "family". I jumped into it full force because - well for a number of reasons, but simply having the human contact and being part of someplace where I felt I could go and have a direction socially had a lot to do with it.
But most of all ... things did happen when I chanted and told people about the practice. Unusual things. Synchronicities.
Yes - I absolutely do see the obvious truths of "backwards rationalization" and "selection bias" (IF something good happens, its because you chanted. IF they dont happen or something painful happens? Its because "its your karma coming out like a pimple" OR "you are doing it the wrong way"). These cognitive distortions are a part of human nature and unavoidable ...
However I am and always have been hyper vigilant not to believe in B.S, and critical minded like a scientist: I delved deep into the practice to test it. If there was anything to it, I was damned determined to find out, regardless of any organization if I had to.
So stuff happened. Sometimes it was wierd, sometimes hilarious, sometimes painful, sometimes profound, and always deeply personal to the issues in my life about society, people, emotion, money, love. And so I kept going.
The proof it what kept me going. In spite of the organization ...
because ...
Tsuki as time went on I began to question all of the things you and others have been talking about in this thread. The constant pressure to conform to do more and more "activities", and lack of consideration for my own personal needs to work and have a life outside of SGI. The constant pressure to conform to the organizational structure, thier way of thinking, thier way of percieving reality.
And the people I came into contact with the organization, that I called "organizational drones": they always used "SGI speak" and "SGI mannerisms" and in dealing with them I often came away feeling like I was dealing with an automaton .. one of those things you see in the Presidential exhibit at Disney.
As if at some point they either completely stopped thinking for themselves and developing an independent personality ... or they were never that strong enough to begin with to have a
true "seeking spirit" to be or find out who they were on their own. This really bothered me. Because this has and always has been one of my pet peeves (BE YOURSELF and dont be fake), cause I can smell insincerity instinctively from a mile way.
But I had these problems of my own with money, and girls, and other things and ... I had these personal experiences ... and so like a carrot on a stick, the practice was always there holding out hope that I was making the causes to change my life on a very fundamental level. And so I kept chasing the carrot in spite of my doubts.
And the more sane ones in the practice knew me personally, knew my doubts, accepted them as natural, gave me some real feedback on the things I was experiencing ("Yeah .. they're a little bit wierd but they mean well lol. The most important thing is your connection to the Gohonzon. Just keep chanting and doing shaka-buku and you'll succeed, you'll see") ... they gave me encouragement that applied to my situation and this also kept me going.
Sometime around 1987 or 1988 there was a big trip of some kind to Seattle. I was a YMD (Young Mens Division), and they were gearing us up to go. But i was broke, barely getting by. At the time i was living in West LA in a house with 5 other people - non members - well one kid, Larry, was a member - but the rest were students etc - and it was a crazy house, party house, roommates moving in and out every week. I forget who was on the lease or even if we had one.
We did this activity where we made a human pyramid on rollerskates. Apparently we were looking to break the world record doing this lol. Because I'm a tall guy (over 6 feet) this put me on the bottom level with the other big guys. Wearing the skates, with a board on my shoulder that all of the other levels would stand on. And so we would do these activities on the weekends, where we would get dragged out of bed at 5 AM ("Challenge your negativity! This is a great cause for Kosen Rufuuuu!!!!" arg!) to go somewhere and chant, do calisthenics in big groups early in the morning, and then kill ourselves in the hot sun while guys climbed up on the boards (did they have insurance lol?? I have no idea).
And all along the way I am telling them that I am broke. And they keep telling me that I am making the cause to get out of my financial situation. That what i was doing - because it was related to the practice - working with others toward changing the karma of the world - that this would directly influence my bottom line. They seemed pretty sure of themselves. So I kept testing it.
When the time came to pay for the plane ticket and cost of the trip (which was somewhere around $400.00 I believe) - I reached a moment where I had to make the decision. I had invested all that blood sweat and tears into doing this crazy activity. I really, really had some serious problems with money and also with what i was doing with my life. I could either A) Do the responsible thing and pay my rent, or B) Trust in the practice ... roll for broke ... and hope for a miracle.
I got some guidance from everyone. My district leaders, chapter leaders, senior leaders ... they all said the same thing. "Go for it. Change your karma!"
So I gave them the money and before long I was flying to Seattle ...
[next: what happened lol] :)
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