Just a note on my wife: she has spent a lot of time reading and thinking and is making a lot of progress. We talk openly without fighting. She mentioned this morning that she was reading about the Komeito party on the Japanese wikipedia site and that while it had a lot of good, eye opening for her, information it said something like in the late 80s that the government made it illegal to have religious groups affiliated with political parties. I checked the english wikipedia and all I saw was that the SGI and Komeito are independent. Thoughts?
Also, my yesterday my wife shared something pretty significant for her. She talked about all the literature and the speeches from PI that stressed the importance of respecting other peoples' religions. She then talked about how SGI goes on and on about rosen kufu (sp?). She came to the conclusion that your really cannot respect another person's religion AND at the same time tell them to replace it with SGI. I think this is a huge step for her. She, a fortune baby no less, said this!
Additionally, I asked her about the Gojukai ceremony and she confirmed that she had done it. Yesterday she said that felt terrible for doing it behind my back and that she was feeling really bad about naming our daughter the way she did. She called it a day of guilt and lamented on in her words "what kind of religion can make it okay to lie?" She told me that she would call and have our daughter's name removed from her "card". I guess that's some membership card.
Step by step...
@Mitchell, you and your wife are very inspiring. It appears that, with the love you share between you, and for your child, you are sowing powerful seeds to break out of the trap that SGI's darker, more culty side has instilled in your lives. I'm not suggesting your wife will stop chanting or even leave SGI necessarily, but it definitely appears that she is willing to open her eyes and take an honest look. I applaud her for that, and you for the courage and love it has taken to help her get to this point.
Despite the negativity and greed that drives so much of SGI on a leadership level, it is my personal belief that everyone, regardless of how deluded or twisted their motives may seem, is really nothing less than absolute Love at the very foundation of their existence. For various reasons this powerful Center that we all share too often becomes twisted and distorted in the way it is expressed through the low frequency, dualistic planes of physical reality. Regardless of where you go from here, in this moment you and your wife are currently expressing something much more powerful than the cult energy of SGI, and it's something to be learned from.
It is absolutely necessary for this group and others to keep on exposing SGI and groups like it for their deception and negativity. Yet, it helps me to recall that the whole point of exposing it is to help people restore peace and balance in their lives by showing them how the cult energies have gradually, imperceptiblly clouded their minds and bound their hearts through the use of subtle fear tactics and other methods. After all, IMO, that natural, loving human instinct for freedom is the whole reason people get sucked into cults in the first place -- even those who go off track, as so many SGI leaders and members unwittingly (or not) have done.