Re: PSI Executive Women are Divorced. Good Example!
Date: October 19, 2009 10:45AM
Found this on another site.
So you want to be a PSI Widow?
Mental Instability or Mental Illness
Insanity does not allow space for normal communication. Especially after a return from PSI Seminars. Divorce is on the rise due to the "traditional reasons" as well as the "starter marriage" syndrome, but it is also due to one or more spouses attending Large Group Awareness Training Programs like PSI Seminars. Why? Research offers support to three main reasons and times for divorce: 5-7 years due to high conflict, when your spouse spends all your money on PSI Seminars. 10-12 years due to loss of intimacy and connection because he/she is more connect to his/her PSI Group.
Why does this happen? Divorce is passed down from divorcing parents to their children: Among adult children of divorced parents, only 60% marry, with 50% marrying before age 25 and most marrying people they had known only a short-time. 40% of them eventually divorce (in other words, only 36% of children of divorce are happily married). Among adult children from intact families, 80% marry, and 9% of them divorce (in other words, 73% of children of intact families are happily married). Among the adult children of divorced parents that never marry, half are women. Among the adult children from intact families that never marry, one-third are women. And among adult children where one or both parents attend PSI Seminars and divorce afterwards 95% will be divorce their spouses. 45% will end their second marriages. This attributes the transmission to personal problems in spouses: Personal problems (self-report of being easy to get angry, hurt, or jealous; showing poor money-management skills (like spending all their money on PSI Seminars); having had an affair; like having sex behind the barn during the barn dance, were twice as likely in marriages in which both partners' parents had divorced compared to marriages in which neither partners' parents had divorced. Adding personal problems into the prediction equation took 39% and 55% of the variance away from parental divorce in one and both partners, reducing history of parental divorce to non-significance when seen in one partner; personal problems predicted divorce 4-12 years in the future, so high ratings of personal problems do not appear to be short-term reactions to a deteriorating marriage. Unless of course you’re a PSI Graduate then you can expect your marriage to end in a month to a year.
Further, this seemed more pronounced in shorter marriages: in marriages 0-4 years old, chances of divorce increased 87% if wives had a history of parental divorce, 620% if both partners did in marriages 5-10 years old, chances of divorce increased 41% if wives had a history of parental divorce, 160% if both partners did in marriage 11+ years old.
So how do we help "Hope" triumph over "Experience"?
"Everybody knows" divorce happens because: Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus... Well... If this were so, the divorce rate would be 100% for heterosexual couples. No Quid Pro Quo... Well... Quid Pro Quo means basically "You do this for me, and I'll do this for you." Applied to marriage if means that marriage is a behavioral exchange; if your partner does enough good things for you, you will do the same number of good things back. It is true that unhappy couples don't engage in this kind of behavioral exchange... but neither do happy couples either. Unless of course you’re going to PSI Seminars and then you expect your spouse to kiss your ***. Unrealistic Expectations... Well... Low and high expectation couples are just as likely to be happily as unhappily married, and there's some research to support that married people engage in a good bit of cognitive dissonance ("I'm still married, so I must be at least a little happy"). Failure to Resolve Key Problems...Well... most big couple issues (69%) don't get solved in happy marriages, they get managed through compromise and negotiation. Men Having Affairs... Well... 20-25% of married men report infidelity at least once. This rate goes up if your spouse attends PSI Seminars. Couples therapists report 50% of their caseload is in therapy due to coupes attending PSI 7. 90% of first-time divorces have involved infidelity, mostly during the last year of the marriage, and it often was hidden throughout the divorce process. But with PSI you can expect to see your wife/husband cheat on you if they attend PSI Seminars. 20-25% of mediation groups say an affair was a reason, but the reason given by 80% is deterioration of intimacy. Most can’t understand why they violated their marriage vows during the quest at the PSI ranch. In the 1970's, 70% of men and 40% of women had affairs, but modern studies show men and women under 45 were equal. One study at a LA hospital showed through blood typing that 30% of the named fathers of babies born there were not biologically related to the child. They were related to their “PSI Buddies” from the PSI Ranch. Another 20% of couples have "emotional affairs" or infidelity where there is no sexual contact (so no adultery), but a disruption in the emotional intimacy of the couple (internet affairs go here). The grads come back and start cyber sexing on the internet and when they can’t find what they need emotionally the group fades away and they start dating others on internet dating sites.
There are three kinds of affairs: accidental – these are unplanned, with the consequences given little thought; it's more of a friendship that develops into more because of what's missing in the main relationship which occurs during the PSI courses. Philandering – these entail steady changes in partners by one spouse, who is likely angry about the marriage, sees the other spouse as controlling, and is likely hostile toward the spouse. Romantic affair – these people "fall in love" to escape marital and life problems; it may signal more of a crisis in the couple's life-cycle than in the marriage itself. Again they see their PSI Buddy as the one who completely understands them and leaves. These finding support that intimacy and support in the relationship are more the issue than sex with someone else.
From a classical perspective, the rise in divorce means one's own failed relationships, as well as one's parents' failed relationships, are more important. Similarly, attitudes about why relationships form, how relationships are supposed to work, what their chances are for success, and what signals "bad times" are all more important to explore. A number of ideas on how to improve communication in couples, the goal of which is to decrease conflict by preventing it by being an active listener (e.g., "What I heard you say is…") is absent in the "disasters" of marriage, but also in the "masters" of marriage. All I heard was I would like you to attend PSI to show you support me and when I saw the money spent on this crap I said no; and there went the wife. “You don’t support me, so I’m leaving.”
The key concept to managing conflict, the goal of which is to decrease the negative impact of conflict, and to Save your marriage, is to NEVER, EVER Attend PSI SEMINARS.