Re: Sterling Men's Weekend - adultery
Posted by:
naivenomore
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Date: August 24, 2008 03:00AM
Dear WiserNow,
I am so sorry you went through this, too. It has been nearly a year now since I was involved with the Sterling guy I met, and it still shakes me at times, just reconstructing the intentional lies necessary for him to operate as he does. I'm glad your guy was at least not married while he was seeing you (I never knew the guilt and pain of hurting someone else until this jerk led me into it). The guy I knew is still up to his tricks, as far as I can tell--still married, but listed single on the dating site. Still, marital status hardly lessens the pain of your own Sterling encounter. You just feel so used and misled. It just shouldn't happen, much less be condoned. I am so glad you found someone sane and wonderful now!!! Congratulations!!!
Strangely, I recently ran into the woman who had invited me to a Women's Weekend recruitment meeting. She actually did seem very happy, had lost a lot of weight, and she told me it was all because of her circle of friends and the support they give her. Gee, I hope she never disappoints them... Then I told her my experience--she had tried to convince me at one time that "Sterling men are different" and encouraged me to meet some. She was somewhat apologetic, and said he "must have strayed" from what he learned there, but said that "some men are just like that". Then she tried to get me to come to some other events. She's a nice woman, and maybe some good comes from it, but I will always be suspicious. Plus... it still makes me sad that she did not want to be friends unless I would become a member of that group.
I think that many people are looking for solid ground, and find something that feels safe in these types of groups and their doctrines. Isn't it amazing how we as humans seek ends to oppression, and then almost unwittingly pine for the same "good old days" we worked so hard to escape?