Re: Recovery from LGAT "Discovery" in Dallas
Date: March 16, 2013 03:17PM
I know this forum thread has gone somewhat stagnant, and I would assume that is largely due to Discovery! training changing hands. The majority of the facilitators/staff involved in the dallas area have migrated to austin....or at least that is what i gather from the dallas and austin websites.
I attended this LGAT in 2008/2009, and it had an enormous affect on me. Initially I thought the affects were positive, but 4 years later I STILL struggle with the wounds that were reopened during the training.
I was asked to take this training for YEARS by a young lady I knew. I always shot her down, dismissing the training as a cult (I have pretty good instincts). I became romantically involved with this same lady, and fell deeply in love. We went through a rough patch, and she asked me to attend the training. I accepted. At the time, I would do anything to save our relationship.
I completed D!,D!!,&D!!!. After each stage, I hungered for more. I kept in close contact with all members of my class (or "family") between trainings, offering encouragement, support, and even meeting up with members for dinner/etc. The emotional attachment I experienced with the group was completely and totally unhealthy, especially since I had only known these members for a short while, was unaware of their character, it was a recipe for disaster. Here I am, attending a training to avoid abandonement of the lady I loved most in this world, and I am about to lose an entire "family" of 60+ people who I had bared my soul to, and vice versa.
When the training was complete, I started to see the members of the group for who they really were - a porn star, a few strippers, a sex offender, several unfaithful husbands/wives, weak, hurting people. No results to show for the time and money they had invested in the program. Several couples claimed their marriage was saved by Discovery, but I saw just as many marriages destroyed by the same.
It is an adrenaline high, an emotional high, that normal everyday life cannot compete with. Everything that goes up, MUST come done....and my life fell to incredible depths I had never previously imagined.
I can deduce the problems in the training now, and how the training sets you up for attachment, dependence, and ultimate failure. They get your $$, you vote of confidence, promotion, and again, ultimately leave you with nothing.
There are good people in these trainings that do see positive results, I am sure. I am not one of those people. If anyone out there needs some encouragement/support on getting over this LGAT, I am all ears. Or, if anyone needs advice about the training, I can help with that as well.