3) It is a way for a group or leader who are unable to cope with human suffering to protect themselves and maintain a facade of all knowing power while silencing people whose testimony and tears might otherwise trigger anxiety-- and reveal that the teacher or the groups's doctrine is incapable of offering real support when tragedy strikes.
That way the people who actually have the power have all the pleasures of power with no accountablity for its proper use
That's the terrible truth. When I was active in the [b:64daebd08c] est [/b:64daebd08c] courses... the "added value" things you did after the core [b:64daebd08c] est training [/b:64daebd08c] ... I witnessed some things that disturbed my conscience badly, sprititually sickened me... although the majority of the attendees were emotionally up to the game and could take away the parts that served them and leave the parts that didn't serve them, there were some people who obviously, declaratively had severe issues.... not overt behavioral manifestations that would get you "disinvited" for non conformist acting out or "failure to get with the program" ... but persons silently, and devastatingly suffering from depression and hideously dysfunctional domestic situations.... there was one case in particular that I will never forget... a pitiable woman, in a violently abusive relationship... during our "communication breakthru" she confides the specifics of this miserable travesty of a marriage to me... it is also painfully obvious that major, highly trained intervention expertise is called for... far, far outside of my knowledge of how one proceeds... and I go up the our omniscient trainer and take her aside, and she is so inflated with her omnipotent grandeur, her [b:64daebd08c]Werner Incandescence... [/b:64daebd08c] and I explain, as rationally, as patiently, as above board... you must do something here, this woman is in a terrible, and probalby dangerous situation, and I have no right to be advising her, you really have to take charge and use your knowledge and get her on track.... this is way beyond me... and the trainer, with the smuggest, most dismissive, conceited all knowing wave of her hand says of course, we'll deal with this, there's no problem... and I trusted her reassuring words, by implication she had seen such cases and she knew how to ethically handle them, well, I trusted many things back then.... and our trainer, filled with her [b:64daebd08c] Werner Incandescence [/b:64daebd08c] flew right back into her training and completely ignored this woman, as if our conversation had never taken place, she just ruthlessly blew her off... "it's actually not our problem you see"... and at the end of the evening, [b:64daebd08c] the trainer had no courage, no integrity, no fucking spine [/b:64daebd08c] to go up to this poor creature, to approach her, to give here one ounce of comfort, or compassion, or suggestion that she get therapy or counseling or go to the police or anything, she just [b:64daebd08c] ever so conveniently dissappeared her from the "imcomplete list" [/b:64daebd08c] and let her wobble off to solve her own issues.... Disgusted ? Sometning clicked in me at that moment that has made me a lifelong activist of sorts, that moment of cowardice, that cheesy loss of nerve, cloaked in some hollow fine sounding theory, something truly Godless in that, so nauseatingy self centered... for all I know that woman is dead, or damaged, or living in terror... and the great shining trainer could not bring herself to give a flying fuck.