In Desparate Need Of Help
Date: September 09, 2003 08:20AM
I just finished the Landmark Forum. I didn't find it sinister, though I see how it could become harmful for certain people who are feeling insecure about themselves or who are otherwise troubled. Landmark would seem to fill a need for people who were unhappy, lonely, and trying to find answers.
I don't know what to tell you about your friend. If she is considering divorce, the marriage is probably not particularly solid at this point. Regardless of whose "fault" it might be, it takes two people to make a marriage work, and it's a difficult, full-time job.
About all I can say is to remind your friend of her commitment to integrity, and that she promised to "love, honor, and cherish" her husband until death do they part.
One of the things they taught us at this seminar was to "enroll" people into our creations (our new ways of doing things). The idea is to get them enthusiastic about our ideas, to move them. If this woman's husband isn't moved, perhaps it's the woman's doing - perhaps she hasn't done enough to "enroll" her husband in her new way of life.
That's about all I can suggest. I hope it helps. I have to say, though, that I've experienced a few dedicated Landmark people. They are thoroughly involved and appear to have no insight into what they're doing. Perhaps for them they are getting something out of Landmark. I don't know. To me it's somewhat disturbing because I get a gut feeling that it's false.
That's my problem, really - my gut tells me this is false, but so far I haven't caught them in any flagrant lie or manipulation. Are they just very careful, or are they legitimate? I don't know.
Good luck with your friend, though...