She's experienced "something" very positive in her life and she wants to share it with me. By this logic she goes on to say that if I'm not willing to share such a powerful and meaningful part of her life, then I don't love her.
I concur. EST and its' spawn, LEC absolutely thrives on generalizations... big, grandiose, hard to pin down, "you just had to be there" generalizations.... often sprinkled with their favorite word phrase "the possibility of"... ESTholes as the formerly referred to, massively dislike being held accountable for their overblown claims (you wonder why no recording, note taking is permitted or why they have never published and written material about their work ?), they are experts at avoiding intellectual confrontation (and past masters at turning an intellectual debate into an emotionally charged shootout at the OK Corral), and they have a masturbatory fascination with circular logic...
Request of your wife that she make a laundry list of each specific benefit that she believes she's obtained, it is very important that she write it out, and then ask her also to write out what specific things happened in her life to make her believe that she genuinely believes she obtained these benefits. If she uses any braod conceptual language ask her to refine it into clear, specific plain English... like, what, exactly does she mean by the term Racket, how would she make a dictionary definition of this word ?
You get the idea. Plug up the ratholes. Make her define her terms. Make her specify her experiences. Ask her what led her to believe that her claims are true, that she had such a powerful change.. in what way ?, what was different afterwards ?
At the bottom of all this, you might have to prepare yourself for the idea that you've outgrown her, and this is only an external symptom of core changes you have been going through without being fully aware of them. Maybe you've matured, gained in wisdom and perspective. Maybe she hasn't , or lacks the emotional resources to see things from your point of view. She may be fleeing into arms of what appears to be solid, trustworthy, and emotionally supportive because she isn't prepared to take the next authentic step in her personal maturation. That may be "the heart of the matter", to use their phrase.