So would I. I grew up around this "church" and am all too familiar with it. I remember at an early age Sunday school teachers trying to teach an almost paramilitary right-wing agenda that scared the shit out of me, to the point I just stopped going, regardless of any parental consequence. It has the distinction of being one of the only Christian churches to get sued for the suicide of a member. The worldview of this church is extremely depressing, puritanical, and almost devoid of fun. One of the key players, Robert Vernon, has an interesting history. He was one of the top leaders of the LAPD under Darryl Gates, and was eventually demoted for his aggressive efforts to promote only right-wing fundamentalists within LAPD. A thoroughly depressing place that did tremendous emotional harm to everyone I know involved with it.
Finally, a fellow ex-Grace member! What you are telling me is all too common. I have known a lot of people who, after their experience there, no longer call themselves Christian. But I am still amazed at not being able to find others on the Internet.
As to the suicide case, I was in the same college group that Kenneth Nally was a member of, but he was there before my time. So I knew quite a few people who personally knew Nally. Their idea of "counseling" is to hammer you with the Bible, and if it does not work and depression persists, then you are sinning and disobeying God.
You seem to know about Robert Vernon better than I do. My understanding was that Vernon was the second man in comand when Darryl Gates was heading the LAPD, and I was not aware of the demotion and the accusations of favoring rightwing fundamentalists. Interestingly, he faced a lot of criticism from pro-lifers for being too hard on the protesters.