There are contradicting beliefs that run through the group, which tend to clash.
Like most religious groups, there is a belief in love, and even a song "Love over all things love," however there is a harsh rejection of alternative beliefs or ideas.
This is of course a tool of any exclusive group, which assures that the member maintains his/her idealogical prison. Breaking outside of the approved parameters of thought will result in spiritual catastrophe. Most group members i encountered were like the one you described.
They keep fragments of their past religious/spiritual beliefs and make it fit the parameters of the Christ Family.
Here is an essay that might be interesting to readers.
A small quotation.
"State the obvious
To begin with, try pointing out the blindingly obvious. Only do it i-n-c-r-e-d-i-b-l-y s-l-o-w-l-y and with an air of superior wisdom. The technique works best if your pronouncements focus on one of life’s big themes, such as love, money and death. So, for example:
We were all children once
Money can’t buy you love
Death is unavoidable
State the obvious in a sufficiently earnest way, perhaps following up with a pregnant pause, and you may find others begin to nod in agreement, perhaps murmering “Yes, how very true that is”.
A second technique is to select words with opposite or incompatible meanings and cryptically combine them in what appears to be a straightforward contradiction. Here are a few examples:
Sanity is just another kind of madness
Life is a often a form of death
The ordinary is extraordinary
Such sentences are interpretable in all sorts of ways and can easily appear profound."
The entire thing can be read here.
Shame can derail analytical thinking.
"Keeping you in line with shame" (Language on this essay is raunchy, but it contains a lot of useful into.
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Brainwashing Techniques They're Using On You Right Now.
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