Concern about online communities
Date: January 23, 2004 11:33AM
As i see it, the BDSM community didnt engage in a flame war. I didnt' insult anyone, nor come out with guns blazing. Those that did insult and belittle, do so on our own forum boards too, it that makes you feel any better. Some people are just like that. Some people build themsleves up by tearing other people down, constantly criticizing, bellittling, and finding fault with even the most innocent of statement. I really cant apologize for anyone else's behavior on this board, but i hope you understand that only a very few people even showed up here, and the ratio of "mean people" to "nice people" who did show up here does not reflect the community as a whole.
Some people just look for a fight, and flame wars are a way for them to do so online i suppose. So, they appear wherever they feel they are being challenged, or feel they can issue a challenge. Some people want to discuss civilly, and they too may appear where they feel they have been challenged. Most people arent interested in defending themselves to a bunch of strangers, so they dont show up at all.
Most people in the community are very nice people, although im sure very different from most of you here. It's sad that the ones with the poorest behavior are the loudest and leave the lasting impression. :(