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counselor47
Thanks for sharing your story, zeuszor. The thing that strikes me is that now that you have the luxury of distance and perspective to allow you to look at them objectively, some things that did not necessarily seem so bad while you were at Trinity are actually outrageous. For example, the idea that Ole would expect to be briefed about what was said in your sessions with your psychiatrist goes way beyond the pale, but that sort of thing is business as usual at Trinity.
I do feel bad for "Frank Bono," as I think he is a good man who just happens to be caught up in a toxically unhealthy religious system. Same thing about some of the others who are still there, including Pete. They are not bad people, but they are stuck in a bad environment.
No, I don't think so. I believe that view is too simplistic. Ole has signifcant flaws and should not, IMHO, be in a position of spiritual leadership. However, what goes on at Trinity Foundation is a [b:2db590565f]group[/b:2db590565f] dynamic, and everyone there plays a role. I certainly played my role while I was there, and have since had to apologize and seek forgiveness from some people whom I hurt by my words and actions. Though he is the central character at Trinity, blaming everything on Ole is just a way for us to keep from examining our own choices and facing up to our own responsibility.Quote
zeuszor
Do you think that Ole is a "bad person"? Evil at his core? I do.
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counselor47No, I don't think so. I believe that view is too simplistic. Ole has signifcant flaws and should not, IMHO, be in a position of spiritual leadership. However, what goes on at Trinity Foundation is a [b:0e295e73a4]group[/b:0e295e73a4] dynamic, and everyone there plays a role. I certainly played my role while I was there, and have since had to apologize and seek forgiveness from some people whom I hurt by my words and actions. Though he is the central character at Trinity, blaming everything on Ole is just a way for us to keep from examining our own choices and facing up to our own responsibility.Quote
zeuszor
Do you think that Ole is a "bad person"? Evil at his core? I do.
I do not mean to justify Ole, as I think he has made some bad choices, too, but I do not think we advance our understanding of what went wrong at Trinity by making Ole into a cartoon villain.
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And as for the idea that I am only apologizing for TFI, that may be true or maybe there is some objectivity I offer. Either way, is there really anything unethical about that if I sincerely believe there is less fault with Trinity than what is being said here?