Contrary to claims from the UM faithful that Serge doesn't give relationship advice, and that all the UM relationship break-ups have stemmed from 'abusive behaviour' on the part of the non-cult indoctrinated partner, here's some examples of the sort of toxic nonsense Benhayon is spewing out ad nauseum and which his followers are accepting as gospel truth. Anyone absorbing this material uncritically while arguing that such claims have no impact on thetheir perceptions of relationships is suffering from extreme cognitive dissonance. These are notes taken from recent EDGs and workshops in the UK.
• We are told and accept how to be by the world.
• Men say 'I do' to society long before any other relationship they may have.
• There are expectations: men are strong, responsible, don't cry, not sensitive, providers
• Women are conditioned to feel inadequate without a man but don't honor themselves
and accept all the needs from the man which in turn re-affirms the mans behavior back
to himself as being ok.
• There is no true love in the relationship only the meeting of needs in an unspoken
• There is no 'proof' or 'role-model' that shows life can be different
• Is it possible that through Serge and the work of universal medicine we have been
shown an alternative way of being that is vastly different to what the majority live on
For example if you split up with your partner and this is devastating for you step back
and see truth. Did you have a real love together? True Love? If this is so then at that
time you had true love which is awesome and if it was true love you can move on
knowing that you can have true love with yourself and anyone and the fact that this
has ended matters not. Or was the relationship really about meeting a need for you
which is now needing because the relationship is over. If this is so then fantastic, it
wasn’t true love anyway and the fact you were carrying a need/hurt has been
exposed which you can let go of and move forward with true love. This requires
Interestingly, UM are holding one of their relationship workshops (even though they allegedly don't give relationship advice) this weekend, where you can be assured by Serge that he is the only man on the planet capable of truly making love, and that he can feel how jealous you are of his ability to nail underage girls without being apprehended by the law (yet).
Basically what Serge is saying is this-
Men are playing roles and dont know how to 'love'
Women only get in relationships because they have a 'need' which is imposed by others as an ideal.
Now, any relationship you have it based on need and the men not knowing how to truly love
therefore, the relationship is wrong
And, the fact that you feel 'hurt' when you end it ( at Serge's head twisting insistence) means that it was exactly what Serge says, a relationship of need and roles..
However, if you it was "true-love" then it doesn't matter because you can have that with yourself or anyone else. That person wasn't special.
It is clear from these notes, and others, that Serge is encouraging his female students to eschew their relationships and selling them the ideal that they can "feel love" all by themselves, and maybe from him and the group if they keep up the payments.
He has the hide to get on TV and radio and print and say " I have nothing to do with breakups. That is an absurd accusation. nor do I encourage breakups. That is scurrilous!"
and then his newly single students come out in support of him, denigrating their families in the process somehow unaware of the contradictions and lie Serge just told, and they are about to commit themselves.
Serge uses the same tricky little technique over and over.
If you dont agree with me, I have touched something and it proves I am right.
If you feel pain when you breakup from the person you love (because the love is pranic) then the pain you feel proves I am right, and it was not real love.
If you think my books are unreadable, it proves you are in your pranic mind and are not in contact with your soul.
If you argue with me then it proves you are angry. Anger is lower and therefore you are wrong.
You are free to choose. I don't ever tell my students what to do. Some choices are pranic and evil, others are fiery and good. Here is the chart of fiery and pranic choices, copyright Serge Benyahon.
I am a man of utter integrity and always have been. If you disagree with that, then you are liar and deluded by the Lords of Form and prana.
And the students fall into this trap and spend years on the treadmill trying to work out what the hell he is on about and 'getting' the work and having their 'buttons pushed', giving up everything as a deposit on a better next incarnation ( maybe) and a few steps up the initiation chart ( (c) Serge Benhayon, fifth level initiate and member of the hierarchy slumming it on lowly earth) and lining up like lemmings once a month to sit and be beaten around the head some more with self agrandizing pontifications, followed up by his brow beaten brood and their acts they are all honing for the family business of....destroying other families.
My prediction for cult meeting tonight- " The prana is lifting because we as a group are bringing more fire to those around us. The Lords of Form are working hard to stop us in doing THE WORK! There are certain individuals who are mad, mad I tell you! My predictions are true for the new era. All the attention and lies perpetrated against me, the great Santini, prove that I am who I say, ( cue the horns) A FIFTH LEVEL MASTER FROM ANOTHER UNIVERSE....HA HA HA HA... and now for night of head sucking BS because I noticed some of your with a glint of awareness in your eyes when you came in...!"