I remember feeling the way OakLight felt before, too. I read this forum while I was still in the school, and when you're in the cultic mindset, it's almost impossible to see another perspective.
OakLight's biggest concern is the perception of their friends and family, rather than the dozens of anecdotes that state harm (red flag #1).
I knew the first time I read this, before
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