Yes, Moderator, good point and one I failed to make. The "wave" illustration has helped me and was given to me by a professional psychiatrist. What I shared was my experience, but that doesn't mean it applies to others necessarily as we are not all alike. Jeanna
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Hello MidnightSoul, You wrote: My mom & I are currently the "black-sheeps" of the family because we fight for individually, free-treatment, and decency in general in life and within the family.. I would turn that around and say you are the WHITE SHEEPS of the family - the strong ones. Your anger is what kept you alive. You sense of fairness is what kept you alive - you and yo
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Hello Midnightsoul, I'm probably old enough to be your surrogate grandmother. Keep posting. Support groups are wonderful places to find healing. Your grandmother's treatment of you was so horrible it was truly criminal. I recall teaching a kid in sixth grade who used to come and sit in my classroom after school rather than go home. He knew he was safe there. When he went home his
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Rickety, I was sexually exploited by a psychiatrist when I was 55 years old. I had a graduate degree, happily married 30 years and raised two kids successfully. When a narcissitic predator goes after you it may not be that you are weak at all - just someone they want to "get and eat." I know a male court judge and a clinical psychologist who were also exploited by their therapists. You
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