Glad you got away from her. Thank you for posting online about her also, this will potentially help others. Your military strategy reference isn't irrelevant at all. Read through Thought Reform and the Psychology of Totalism http://www.culteducation.com/reference/brainwashing/brainwashing19.html sounds like you will recognize many of the features of thought reform environments.
Forum: "Cults," Sects, and "New Religious Movements"

I left the group 20 + years ago yet still occasionally have nightmares about them. While giving a deposition about my experiences with them, Steven Kamp worked to be intimidating in the small room we were in. He wasn't expected to be present, his presence was a surprise, and his behavior was noted by others. I was scared and sometimes emotional as I related my experiences. The two people
Forum: Former Cult Members and Affected Families

http://www.culteducation.com/reference/recovery/recovery3.html Reading through this site, like the link above and others, really helped me. I also read books on cults and abusive relationships. Got good therapy that wasn't cult recovery specific but worked on anxiety and PTSD issues. Even though books on anxiety and PTSD and recovery from domestic violence might not mention cult recov
Forum: Recovery from Destructive Cults and Groups

http://www.culteducation.com/groups/consciousness.html This is an Arizona based destructive cult led by Trina and Steven Kamp. They have a K - 12 charter school The Shelby School http://www.ade.az.gov/edd/NewDetails.asp?EntityID=79132&RefTypeID=1035&SchoolType=CS and are also active in the chess competition world http://americanchess.net/. Recently Steven M. Kamp registered the name
Forum: "Cults," Sects, and "New Religious Movements"