I've done the Mankind project, I wouldn't say it's a cult, just a huge waste of money really. Seems to pray on men's insecurity without providing them with what they are really looking for. At least that was my experience.
As for David Deida I think the only real way to know about him is to ask someone who has been to his seminars or listen to the secret recordings of his
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Large Group Awareness Training, "Human Potential"