CosmicConnie,
as seen in threads like this, its very challenging to communicate in plain-text, so its very easy to misintrepret things, from all sides of the issue.
Its true at times there is a lot of speculation in a forum like this.
But that is healthy, its people trying to figure complex counterintuitive stuff out, with incomplete information, as so much of it is concealed by the Guru
Forum:
"Cults," Sects, and "New Religious Movements"