From The Buddha Pill, by Miguel Farias and Catherine Wikholm, and the chapter "The Dark Side", p. 152: "I haven't stopped believing in meditation's ability to fuel change, but I am concerned that the science of meditation is promoting a skewed view: meditation wasn't developed so we could lead less stressful lives or improve our wellbeing. Its primary purpose
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Unfortunately, I was in two cults and in both the "guru" weaponized us against each other. It was done through the concepts we were taught. In the first cult, if someone was having difficulty with meditating, we told them it was "roughness" and "purification", implying that it was their problem that they were having trouble with the practice. I not only said this
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While on YouTube you might also check out: Richard Grannon Patrick Teahan NarCon (Paula d'Arcy) Jerry Wise Rebecca C. Mandeville I think these channels have some very helpful techniques for recovery from narcissistic abuse. Paula d'Arcy talks about the spiritual aspects of narcissism. Rebecca Mandeville specializes in scapegoat abuse.
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Here's a different take on working with people at a distance. My "Swami", after ghosting me, told the group members to shun me but that he "was still working with me" which they took to mean he was still helping me spiritually. But what he was doing was inflicting pain. The silent treatment has been proven to cause physical pain and mental anguish that actually light
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Yes, I would agree that most of us on this site come to the realization that the answers we seek lie within us, especially after experiencing abuse from these teachers with their limited and partial truths. One of my pet peeves is that the faith I was raised in, Christianity, never spoke about or explained the meaning of the verse in Luke 17:20-21; the kingdom of heaven is within you. Nor did
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Found this interesting passage in The Road Less Traveled, the chapter titled The Welcoming of Grace, by M. Scott Peck: "For the journey of spiritual growth requires courage and initiative and independence of thought and action. While the words of the prophets and the assistance of grace are available, the journey must still be traveled alone. No teacher can carry you there. There are n
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Jesus said, "the kingdom of heaven is within you." He didn't say, "the kingdom of heaven will be within you if you only... meditate...say this mantra...accept a particular belief system...(fill in your cult's preferred practice here)." Any belief system that tells you to look outside yourself is at best a misguided lie. The blind leading the blind. Unfortunatel
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Thank you for this post, RUN_FOREST_RUN. Succinctly put. My concerns exactly. When I asked my Swami, 'why isn't Radha mentioned in the Gita?' I was told, 'the whole Gita is about Radha!' What??? Although I love many of the verses in the Gita, I wonder if the whole Radha-Krishna thing is ultimately nothing more than an astral distraction that ultimately keeps us from o
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Most likely the malignant, traumatizing narcissists exist on a continuum with the Jim Jones, Charles Mansons, etc., at the extreme end and say, a narcissistic spouse at the low end. In the middle would be the ISKCONS and TMs and the Keith Ranieres between the TMs and the Jim Jones. Would Dahmer really fit anywhere on this continuum? I get what you're saying about manipulation, dominatio
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I agree that the experience of being lied to, and the effect it has had on us, is worthy of our examination. Our having been lied to is a fundamental part of our experience in cults. Many years ago, travelling on a bus through Connecticut, I saw a pamphlet featured in a window in a bookstore whose title touched my heart. I later made a special trip to purchase it (decades before the internet
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Have you, like me, suffered spiritual abuse? If so, how did you heal? What helped you? And, what is your spiritual practice and/or belief now? I'll start with some definitions of spiritual abuse that I found helpful. This first is from a talk by Ken Garrett for the International Cultic Studies Association (ICSA), "Regaining Your Footing: First Steps of Recovery From Spiritual Ab
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I was a member of Michael Mamas' cult for nearly 20 years. Unfortunately, I didn't realize it was a cult until after I had left, followed another guru, been shunned by that guru and my friends and, on my road to healing, began to educate myself about cults. (see my post under, "Has anyone been shunned or ghosted?") My sister found Michael Mamas first. I was at a place in
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Beautifully said, Corboy. I, too, grew up not knowing what a "genuine attuned connection was" or how to recognize it in others. It is one of my pet peeves about Christianity (my childhood religion) that they focus on saving but then do not seem to know how to create a lasting, even perpetually evolving, personal connection with the divine. Could it be that they fear one would become
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Thank you, corboy, for this post. It wasn't until I read it that I finally understood what had happened to me. How did it happen? It's a long story so I will try to keep it shorter. I followed my friends and therapist of 20 years out of the Michael Mamas cult during the time of covid. They had been doing a Radha-Krishna chant given to them by a sannyasi they called Swamiji and it
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