Colter, I'm very happy that AA has worked for you. I am aware that it has worked for millions of people. But AA does NOT work for EVERYONE. Why can't you just admit the fact that not everyone responds fits into the AA mold and not everyone responds well to that particular type of program?
I do not recall being asked that question so I'm not sure why you use the term "admit."
AA is not for people who need it, it's for people who want it. Many come and never actually work the program and then find the most trivial of reasons to get drunk. What alcoholics "think" is what gets them to AA in the first place. Naturally they don't like AA, it exposes the self delusion that the self centered alcoholic lives in, it deflates their EGO's and they rebel against that to the bitter end.
For the manipulative alcoholic their is always an enabler to join their cause such as in the case of your friend who went back to drinking after the break up of a relationship in AA. So now in his mind that's the fault of AA avoiding his own responsibility.
If their are other programs in which the alcoholic gets honest with themselves and faces the real internal problems for which alcohol was the solution then by all means do it. AA claims no such monopoly on sobriety.