"friends" who demand alibis and time sheet
Posted by:
inspector 8
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Date: May 12, 2003 05:00AM
There is much to be said about situations where "friends" ask demanding personal questions about what one does with their personal time (which is none of the "friend's" business).
Many stories could be told about this.
Anyway I just want to say that I can think of at least two situations in which I have had a "friend" who started becoming judgmental and demanding about just exactly how I spend my personal free time.
When I've thought about it later, so much of this is none of their business (unless they "own" me). Usually they seem to be trying to coax or coerce me into doing something or other by putting a guilt trip on me.
Anyway free personal time (what little of it most busy people of today have) is often stressful and no fun when it is over-hung by a guilt trip that one could be spending it more "wisely" some other way that a "friend" has in mind.
I could say so much more on this subject --- exact situations and all --- but in sum I just want to say I find this VERY CULT-LIKE when "friends" start demanding how one spends their time, or their free time.
For one --- BESIDES THE FACT THAT IT IS NONE OF THEIR BUSINESS ANYWAY --- there are SO MANY little inuendos about other peoples' personal lives which are none of their business, anyway.
For instance, only I know whether or not my body is getting run down and I feel like I need extra rest, before a health problem sets it. Only I know that my personality type likes to spend time doing creative endeavors, and that I sometimes start feeling too run-down and stressed if I don't. There is no way I can explain all of that to make someone of a different personality type understand all of that.
I think we need to beware of people who ask demanding personal questions as to how we spend our time, our money, etc. Sometimes these people just want to control our lives, and they have no business doing it.
Maybe at some later date I can hone this subject better and submit a better essay on it, but this will have to do for now. Thanks!