It has been a bit more than 6 months since I stopped chanting. First I was scared, then angry and now just happy to be out of SGI. Indeed, my life has blossomed, no fight with my husband, I start running and the best, I built my own company and it is working so well!!
Yesterday I had visit from a member, I had not seen her in 6 months and she came back with her boring crap about this buddhism. I did not really want to talk about it but she was selling all these ideas and I get tired. I just saw her as a lonely 49 years old lady looking for a job and a bit agressive when I told her that I was happier now.
So it was worth it to stop and SGI is a cult, no doubt.
Bravo!! And CONGRATULATIONS!
You've perfectly described what happens when leaving the gakkai cult. I was so relieved when I first broke away, relieved to get away from all the dysfunctional members (leaders!), the psychological mind games and the manipulation. The further my time in receded into distant memory, the happier I got (with good things continuing to happen), as I slowly began to see and understand things more clearly. It definitely takes time.
As for the cult member who "home visited" (cult-speak) you, again, spot-on analysis! The cult regresses people to be dependent and fearful (although they ironically believe just the opposite). Their lives are regressed and then they go into a perpetual stasis, never growing, never changing and in some cases, never really solving their problems (just avoiding them thru delusional activities and the magic chant). When they do solve their problems, just as everyone else does, thru nothing more than their own efforts, they are programmed to give credit over to The Dear Leader by default. I posted a cult clip on another thread where a cult member at a cult reach out public activity stated "It allows us to OWN our own successes." It's completely the opposite, Ikeda and the cult org. "owns" your successes and you are conditioned to "repay your gratitude" back to the cult org. thru time, activities, money, etc..
When you dare contradict them, either in words or, as in your case, thru "actual proof" (again, cult-speak), they invariably react by getting nasty and even angry. They begrudge your happiness and success, especially when it comes to someone who has rejected their belief system. If it happened while you were still a member, you'd have to give an "experience" at a cult meeting - a magical benefit. If it happens after you go taiten (leave the cult org.), it breaks their "mystic law" (a ridiculous, meaningless, nonsense term), they don't understand it (because they can't think) and they get angry (hence, her aggressiveness).
The $oka Gakkai is absolutely a pseudo-buddhist cult of a rich Japanese con-man.
Congratulations, again, on getting out, reclaiming your sanity and walking away from the chains. Unfortunately, many others don't (or can't) make it out.