I do not ask others to meet my needs or desires.
I know I've shared this before, but this thread is really long - and growing O_O
When I mentioned to my men's division district leader that I wasn't getting any of my own needs met through the district or other SGI activities (or my children's needs), he told me I was being selfish and that I should instead be thinking about how I could use all my years of experience and my leadership training and all my study to help others O_O
That was my last meeting, coincidentally. It wasn't that, when he said that, I decided I'd never go back. It's just that after that, I never went back :P
And nobody called me to see why I suddenly wasn't attending meetings any more, either! Sometimes people who speak plainly appear quite scary, especially to the brainwashed.
Giving guidance whether or not guidance is sought. I freely offer others advice and directions without being asked.
Hint: If someone asks your advice, you may share your opinion. If you share your opinion without being asked, it's meddling.