Hi Solea and others, here is my 2 cents on some of this.
If any person has actual "phobias" that match the definition, and crippling Anxiety, then they really need to seek some good treatment.
The good news is that Systematic Desensitization has been proven to work.
Every city has legit anxiety clinics, and experts that can help.
So anyone with an actual phobia, please get some Systematic Desensitization done at an anxiety clinic, or with a registered certified anxiety expert.
(psychoanalysis has not been shown to help for that stuff).
We can't really do that on our own, phobias and serious anxiety disorders need professional treatment. Then after, the other stuff like the books are great as a supplement. But those books will say the same thing too.
EGO: (notice they never even define what it is)
This is some of what I think about that. I agree with much of what you said.
In ancient times, when life was brutish and short for most people, sure it may have been best to detach from everything, eat your grain, work dawn to dusk, then die young.
And of course, for peasants and slaves, the Chiefs-Leaders prefer to have them to have a lobotomy as then they are easier to control, like a herd of sheep.
But now life is very different.
The world is a complex place, and we need our beautiful natural minds to cope and manage.
And to be blunt, what that Guru is saying is utter nonsense. Science is showing the exact opposite. For example, Positive Psychology is showing the happiest people and what they are doing.
We need to do the opposite of what he is saying.
Its like these guru's are saying..."you eat food with your hand and are fat, so cut off your hand".
Why not just learn better behavioral-cognitive skills?
Notice most of the Gurus don't live like that. (of course there are exceptions).
Also, many guru's are full of self-hatred, due to their own hypocrisy.
They attack the Mind, as the mind is what makes us free.
These are huge areas of philosophy, psychology, science, art, etc.
But the old-school Guru's, and the New Guru's who wears pantsuits, seem mainly to be about helping their own bottom line.
Everyone has to find their own way in these complex areas of life...good Teachers are great, but these Guru's and fake Anti-Guru Trickster salespeople....no thanks.
These Guru's hate critical thinking, as if someone does it, then they expose their shams, and can't be controlled as easily. Critical thinking is THEIR enemy, but its the person's friend, its a wonderful tool, like a swiss army knife when camping. They want to take away their followers natural swiss army knife so they are more helpless.
That is called Learned Helplessness, good for them, bad for us.
I am keeping my terrific, free, multi-modal ALL NATURAL and ORGANIC Swiss-knife of critical intelligence and free will, thank you very much.