I'm still binge reading - I felt this post was valuable it bears repeating.
> We need to remember that there is healthy
> narcissism - we each need some
> in order to believe and FEEL we are God's
> children, that creaturely as we are,
> the Creator is mindful of us. This coexists with
> being able to enjoy other people's company and not
> get despairing or enraged if we meet with an
> ordinary setback.
> It is when narcissism is way out of hand that
> other people are used and harmed.
More recent research detected a further
> high?functioning variant, which is outgoing,
> energetic and articulate, with an exaggerated
> sense of self?importance.
> The fact that narcissistic personality disorder is
> not a monolithic entity creates challenges for the
> diagnostician and the psychotherapist. In keeping
> with the notion that the key to diagnosis lies in
> the quality of love relationships, we suggest that
> a careful examination of modes of relatedness is
> As Kohut stressed, some patients who are
> narcissistically organized tend to idealize
> others so that they can bask in the reflected
> glory of an idealized object. They may insist
> on the most famous psychotherapist or pick a
> romantic partner purely on his/her looks so that
> others will be impressed.
> The grandiose high functioning type may attract a
> lot of followers who have this second, 'Golden
> Calf' type of self centeredness.
> What makes things really complicated is that a
> grandiose, self centered NPD
> may actually accomplish a lot of good in
> altruistic ministries and professions.
> They can attract hardworking followers who make
> excuses for them even after their hero's behavior
> deteriorates. Other disciples who begin to have
> misgivings may feel afraid to trust their feelings
> for fear of being reprimanded.
> But their families and close disciples pay the
> highest price in neglect. I saw some hidden
> tragedies years ago when in the peace movement.
> You can do heroic social justice work, have lots
> of adoring followers, bask in
> their adoration, while they bask in your fame and
> heroism. Meanwhile, you may
> be neglectful to your family, or worse, be cruel
> to them in private. If they
> try to tell anyone the truth, they will not be
> believed. Worse, they are often
> forced to put on a smiling front in public.
> 40yearsin2016 wrote:
How many times did I hear JRS talk about
> being re-energized in his spirit when preaching -
> being able to go on for hours without any
> The professionals have a term for this:
> narcissistic supplies.