Reepicheep Wrote:
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> Re: The Living Word Fellowship, The Walk, John
> Robert Stevens
> Posted by: NancyB ()
> Date: February 01, 2019 12:06AM
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> puddington Wrote:
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> > Mental health professionals will tell you there
> is
> > an inner self that is deep and private. A
> normal
> > person keeps this place secret and private. It
> is
> > very unhealthy to expose this place to another
> > human.
> >
> > But the Living Word demands that you open it up
> > and give it all. You are expected to tell your
> > “designated relationship” everything. Including
> > these secret places. This is very harmful IMO.
>
> WOW! Thank you for that. The 'boundaries" issue
> just clicked in my head. WOW!. Been working on
> that in therapy over the years. I understood the
> concept but I could not ever seem to fully apply
> it. I knew that I had "gullible" and "vulnerable
> written across my forehead for every social path
> that came my way to read-I knew I had a old record
> with deep scratched groves. WOW! Now it personally
> makes sense. Thank you.
>
>
> Thanks to NancyB and puddington. This just clicked
> for me. Boundaries. We learned not to have them.
> We were taught to "spill our guts" in a very
> inappropriate way meant to control us. Once when I
> was living with a family who was "shepherding" me
> through a very rough time, I was keeping a journal
> of my thoughts.
Just for me. When the man
> of the house counseled me, he once repeated back a
> very specific phrase that I had written and I knew
> that my privacy had been invaded. I was a grown
> woman and they found my journal and read it so
> that they could "help" me. Such a violation.
Reep, I am so sorry to read that violation. Unfortunately it was norm for the cult to violate every ounce of privacy. The Lord told me" didn't mean squat them if they had to resort to the rick of con men who look at the pictures in your wallet before they reveal some things about you. ( Remember in the Wizard of Oz the traveling man whom Dorthy ran into before the tornado? he looked at Auntie Em's photograph in Dorothy's basket.His crystal ball ball did n't work any better than the revelations in the cult did). All a fake when you have to read someone's diary to appear grandiose.
thanks for sharing Reepicheap. WOW! Waht you shared may very well help someone else to see clearly now that we victims were not alone. Help s me for sure.
I have had a hard time in therapy figuring out just how the therapists knew my boundaries were so poor. ...but , but.. but I was there to heal so i figured I needed to tell the truth. What a conundrum!