Re: The Living Word Fellowship, The Walk, John Robert Stevens
Date: May 19, 2017 03:16AM
slandjt - I think all of us came out of TLWF with a heightened sense of a BS detector, but is it possible it may be a little skewed? Anyone that has been wounded is acutely aware of the types of things that have caused them suffering and will make every effort to avoid them in the future. Not all men want to oppress women. That’s certainly not in my “Jesus world” as you call it. I don’t think it was in Jesus’ world either. He upset many social norms when it came to women. My brother, who grew up in TLWF, was on the other side of multiple affairs, and honestly believes a faithful woman does not exist. He’s not even interested in dating because he doesn’t want to go through that pain again. Of course it’s not true, but that’s his honest view through a wounded lens.
I really am involved in a number of activities to help single moms and their kids. I mentioned one, and my motives and character are immediately questioned because through a wounded lens it’s not possible that it could be as simple as I actually care about them and want to help. There must be some ulterior motive – even when you wait 17 years to tell your old friends what you’ve been up to. It’s easy to see a need and recommend something be done about it, and quite another to roll up your sleeves and go to work yourself. For one thing, you have the added load of wading through the critics to do it. It seems that no matter what you do or say, someone will twist it and be offended - even the good stuff.
However, I would say that I didn’t care as much as I do now about single moms and kids when I was in TLWF – I was busy serving the leadership. You would think that with a woman leading the group, it would be a primary emphasis. Who do you think was actually behind determining if there was an unequal yoke in your marriage? Legally, you could not say Marilyn wanted a divorce, but you were aware of her opinion and she after all was the witness of the Holy Spirit. Who do you think was removing all threats to her being number one in your husband’s life - including ahead of you? It was not being directed from an oppressive male hierarchy. BTW, I truly am sorry for the pain you suffered from your husband’s affair. I understand much more than you might think. There’s much more to my personal story than looking for greener grass – it just doesn’t fit into TLWF spin, nor would it be helpful to my ex at this point. We both learned valuable lessons the hard way and have made adjustments so we don't go down that path in the future.