...I feel so powerless. I am no longer #1 in my man's life - The Release Technique people now occupy that position. So much for their claim about how "releasing" improves relationships.
Hi question lady. I have some idea that people who do all this personal growth kind of stuff and generally looking for some kind of meaning in their lives (I know that is why I courses etc.) It could be that people look at what they are doing with their lives and it's not what they really want to be doing. These courses offer them some kind of 'excitement' or chance to 'improve their lives'. Perhaps what is needed is finding out what your husband is dissatisfied in his life, and what he would really like to achieve for himself? I think if he is really dissatisfied with something, then a change is necessary, and while it might not be the release technique it could still be something that you don't like or don't want him to do. But if it makes him feel like he has a more satisfying life, supporting him to step out and do it, could bring good fruit.
It is something like being caught in a rip (or current) in the ocean..you can't get out of it by trying to cut across it...you have to go with the flow of it, but then veer out of it at a slight angle. An approach like that with getting your husband to see the truth could help. If it is support and encouragement he is looking for, you can do that by listening to him, and encouraging any good points that he shares about what he is learning. Patiently holding your tongue when there is stuff you don't agree with. When he sees that you have his best interests at heart, he is more likely to begin to trust that you are not just trying to control him (whether or not you are actually trying to control him). Once he feels he can be open with you without any kind of debate, he will probably come to share more openly with you, and on his own come to see any errors or whatever in what he is being told.
Lots of love and patience.