Re: husband in mankind project...cult?
Date: August 18, 2020 03:44AM
Ginah, oh my gosh, I know this thread, or this part of it, is 14 years old, so I don't know if you will see this, but EVERYTHING you have written is 100% my experience with my (ex)boyfriend. However, he had been in MKP for a couple of years when I met him. At first, we were so on the same page about communication, intimacy, and partnership. I was so happy to have found him. He introduced me to his MKP friends and even took me to a couples' sweat out at the retreat center. I have a Christian background/foundation and he had claimed to be a Christian for about 10 years I think. Anyway, I was not clear on what this MKP was, but to myself, I was feeling a little uneasy about what he had been describing (naked dancing and all), but I was falling in love with him and wanted to show my support for things that were important to him. As our relationship progressed, I realized, this seems paganistic and cultish, and our great communication and intimacy dwindled as I attempted to gently question him on how he reconciles this group with his faith in God and what the Bible says. I could FEEL the turn in him. He had introduced me to guys in his I- group and we spent time with them. They seem to like me and present themselves as these enlighten nice guys. I always felt uneasy around them for some reason, but my boyfriend's life revolved around these guys (and his AA friends- I think he was recruited at AA after he had gone through trauma treatment after getting sober) He was in his 50's and seemed to be an independent thinker when I met him, but as I started my questioning months into our relationship, he became distant and his attitude towards me and Us became hostile. I was now the enemy. He started saying I was trying to control him, and asserted his "independence" from me. He started to dictate how our comunication should be executed, and if I didnt adhere, he would ignore me, get very defensive, or shout I had a lot of self-work to do. We could no longer just *talk* like normal people, it had to be his (the MKP) way or not at all. The more I tried to work things out the further he drifted from me, and our plans to spend our lives together disintegrated. It broke my heart-- the guy I thought I knew and loved was gone. He said he needed to go be independent and not have to "consider" me. The whole thing was just mind-boggling to me. He became this MKP robot, and acted like I was nothing to him but a few nice memories, and that his MKP clan were his TRUE friends, and I am not "safe,"and I just didn't understand him, but THEY DO. Even after he had expressed many times before sentiments like he was so happy he found me, he had never felt someone's love for him as much, and I was his best friend. All of it, Gone, out of his head.
I had started researching MKP before he left, but was shocked to see very little information outside of MKP entries. I was like, oh my gosh, that is how powerful this organization is: MKP and Google has censored negative discourse about it, very scarey. So I am so grateful to find this forum, and it has certainly validated all of my suspicions. I am not "imagining" things like he said. We broke up a few months ago, and this knowledge has given me some much needed closure. But at the same time, my heart hurts for him. He is in his 50's, but he has gone through a lot of trauma in his childhood and since, and he is a fragile soul. Obviously very vulnerable and malleable--perfect target for these MKP preditors. I want to shake him, open up his eyes, but it seems he is too far gone, and certainly will not listen to anything I say. All I can do is pray for him.