Husband is becoming a serious Chabad Lubavitch follower
Date: May 29, 2005 04:10AM
Being once involved with a man who had the same problem, i would advice you to consider breaking up the marriage. i know it sounds horrible, but if this is not going to stop soon, he will drag you and the family into the situation, which can later become even worse and harder to untangle. I know one friend who saved her marriage, but her husband didn't go as deep into the practice as you describe yours. Eventually, however, they immigrated to Israel, and this was after the earthquake in LA (the Valley), because the Rabbi explained to them that this is a sign from God etc. etc., and so they left to Israel. However, at no point did he become very observant, rather he gave money, took the kids to summer camps etc. In Israel, they are not observant and have less contact with cult, except he is still giving them money (but they are very rich, so nobody is suffering). In my brief experience with a man who suddenly became a follower of one of those Rabbis, we had to separate because the rabbi took over his life, made his decisions, and since I didn't want to get into it, he said I was a bad woman etc. etc., luckily we didn't ahve kids together. You ahve to be clear with husband that its this or you, and that's it, unless you are really willing to change your lifestyle and become a religious Jew, which also means you are subjected to constant degredation by this or that Rabbi. Waiting it out can take years, although some people snapped out eventually, but usually not very fast, namely, in terms of years.