My friend wants to become a Forum leader but I hate LE.
Date: May 31, 2005 09:45AM
Elena,
This is what I thought at first too. That she was intelligent enough to go out with someone from Landmark in order to avoid confrontation in the future. But no. He is not from Landmark. And she says he doesn't need to do the Landmark Forum (!?). In my opinion, he will have too sooner or later, because she will just want to "share" her Landmark experience with him like she used to tell me so many times.
No. She just found another victim and now she can start afresh using her enrolling techniques on him. Who knows. Perhaps we will see him soon enough on this forum. I wish he could read my posts so he can learn from my experience with her.
It has always been a concern for me that everything she does is run by those techniques she is mastering. In the beginning, she kept insisting and insisting that I do the Landmark Forum. Because I was resisting, she tried another tactic - retreat - but only to come back stronger at a later time in a more subtle way. She betrayed herself when she told me "I will not ask you to do the landmark Forum ... for 3 months". On another occasion, she said "this is the best thing that can happen in your life ... you just don't know it YET". Then she said my kids should do it too!!!
I could't trust her anymore. In her last letter, in an effort to get complete with me, she insisted that I have a problem, that I keep trying to dominate and to humiliate her. And she said that the cost I have to pay for trying to be right is to loose my relationship with her. This is typical Landmark stuff again. Actually she came up with that last tentative to destabilize me after she met with her coach!
My reply was that she was again trying to destabilize me and to create a problem with me that doesn't exists. And that the price she had to pay for being so righteous about Landmark was that she was loosing her relationship with me, insisting that it works both ways in the real life.
I realize she couldn't take it, so she completed her past with me, stopped loving me in a snap (snapping again!?) and found this other man to experiment with.
I agree with you Elena. This is sick. Very sick. In my experience, she is very close to having a bordeline personality disorder because of her training in Landmark. You're all white if you speak favorably about Landmark, but you turn all black as soon as you open your mouth and speak against it. Black/White dilemma and changing in a snap, so typical to borderlines.
I hope my story which has now come to an end with be of help to our readers.
Michael D.