landmark = weird dating experience - ew!
Posted by:
curiousgirl
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Date: April 11, 2005 12:34PM
Um, wow. So, I went on a few dates with an great guy - he was just amazing, full of energy, kind, confident...*almost* perfect but something wasn't quite clicking & I couldn't figure out what it was. Well, in hindsight, I can see that on each one of our dates, he kept bringing up this weekend seminar he'd done where he'd had this amazing, life-altering, mind-blowing experince. The first time, I thought nothing of it but it got kind of repetitive and on the third date he dramatically described a particular moment when I guess he "got it", and the wheels in my head started to turn. After reading the articles on your site and having some conversations I had with family and friends who knew what this was all about (and they all adviced me to run away screaming), I realized he'd been referring to "The Forum"!
He wasn't *that* interested in me - in my opinion, he was going to recruit me! Only, he'd never actually *used* the word "Forum". I e-mailed him, kindly telling him that it didn't line up with my value system and that I didn't think we were compatible for romance. He called me that same day, *and I'll remind you, he'd never used the word "forum" before*, and the first words he spoke were "So, you're freaked out by The Forum."
He told me he fully accepted it if I didn't want to date him, but he wanted to know exactly why I had a problem with the forum, who I had talked to about it, if they had actually been there, what they had said, detail for detail. I told him I didn't have time to discuss it and we got off the phone. The tone of the conversation was very "Why don't you want to buy this amazing car, what's wrong with it?" I'm sure I'll be hearing from him again unfortunate ly, but I'm glad I figured it out before getting seriously involved. (I only wonder: if this "Forum" was so amazing and if he was so confident that it worked, *why* does it even matter to him what other people thing?)