Re: Staying friends with a Landmarkian?
Date: June 25, 2018 07:36PM
"the individual who is inducted by 'friends'; is motivated by curiosity, a desire to improve in some way."
Honestly, I'm not so sure how often that is the case. I felt more hooked into it. She called me, crying, because she didn't have enough people for her home introduction. (1st hook).
l deliberately went with no money. The woman gave the presentation, then asked, "did i get anything of value out of it?" To be polite, i said, "yes." They then try to get you to sign up, and if you do it today, it's $100 off. I say I'll think about it. Friend says she'll lend me the $100 deposit, and if i thought it had value, why wouldn't I, if i really want to fix (a, b, c, or d in my life...)? (2nd hook).
The deposit is non-refundable. Then, a couple of days later, i say I'll pay her back the $100, but i wasn't sure that i wanted to do it. She has a garage sale to raise more money for my tuition. Now she's sold stuff so I'll go. (3rd hook). She argues that it's just a weekend, what's the harm?
They KNOW that people show up at the intros with no money, so this lending or just giving the down payment is very common. She pretty much nagged for a year to get me into it. I think this happens to a lot of people. I think a lot of people go because they end up feeling obligated. I know that I did.
Leading up to it, she kept asking me if i was excited to do it, and i kept telling her "no." From what little i had been told, i thought it sounded like just a bunch of "reframing." I already know how to do that, if i want to. It was that, plus a bunch of mind-fuck.