I'm very keen to find out if anyone out there has any real life negative feedback on the Hoffman Process. The reason for my request is as follows:
My wife attended the Hoffman Process in Dec 08 – prior to her going in we had a very loving relationship, like all relationships we had our issues, but if there was one thing never in doubt it was the love we had for each other. Pretty much day one of my wife coming out of the process she told me she didn’t think we had a future together, and quoted “with my new inner strength and the love I have for myself I don’t feel you fit in to my future plans, I now feel we have different perspectives on life and I need to follow my own path in life and do what truly makes me happy”.
We stayed together for the following 4 months (in separate bedrooms) and 1 month ago she moved out and said she cannot be in a relationship as she needs to focus on herself. The post below screams out a lot of similarities in what my wife has been saying to me post the Hoffman Process, excluding the recruiting of friends, and the aggressive nature of the Lifespring seminar.
Post all of this happening I have spent a lot of time studying the internet and have found a lot of negative press around these residential LGAT type programmes. What I found was both interesting and scary. With regards to the Hoffman Process it was very difficult to find any real negative press, the interesting fact I found was the Hoffman Process seems to come from the same stable as EST, Lifespring etc………as Charles Ingrasci the current CEO of the Hoffman Process USA originally worked with Werner Erhard as an aide promoting EST, he then worked as a Director of Corporate Affairs at Lifespring with John Hanley, then latterly joined the Hoffman Process.
My view from what I have seen is this is a real slick operation that has taken a good look at all of the negative press around LGAT’s, and created an incredibly slick programme that minimizes negative press after their process. Ie: Landmark and Lifespring rely on re-recruiting attendees to maximize the revenue they would generate, the Hoffman Process maximizes their revenue in one swoop as they offer an 8 day residential programme that costs £2,300. People thereafter are not focused on aggressively recruiting, and because they are so hyped up from the guided visualizations and meditation sessions naturally want to promote the process to their friends as they are still on a serotonin high.
My biggest gripe with the Hoffman Process (as well as losing my wife) is the fact they are not accountable to anyone, they do not truly stringently pre-screen applications, and not being medically trained are not skilled enough to know when people are not suitable for the intense training they are putting people through. I ask you how can you truly assess someone by simply reading an application form……..?
My wife suffered from abuse as a child and also bouts of depression; speaking to a qualified psychologist I was told my wife should not have done this process as it seems to have caused dissociation, and has caused her to disconnected from some of her emotions, hence her black and white approach towards me.
Maybe I’m being a complete idiot and maybe my wife never loved me, but I find that very hard to believe as she often called me her rock, and told me no-one has ever stood by her like I did, and gave un-conditional love and support accepting all her quirks.
If anyone else has similar type experiences I’d be really keen to here from you.