I am sorry for your respective losses and can understand your resentments. My dad went to a jazz camp when I was a boy and met a woman there who was his 'music' partner. It became an affair and eventually he divorced my mother and married the new woman. In this situation, I feel that if that is the way he is, my mom is probably better off without him, no matter how bad it hurt her in the beginning. Also, I do not hold jazz camp responsible for my father's actions or my feelings about the situation. There are useful support groups such as Alanon for coping with losses such as we have experienced. I also use the sedona method with my feelings about this event. It's ok for me to feel sad about this. That much is normal. But I needn't dwell. My life continues on. And my mom is doing better than ever, if you were wondering :)
Thanks for noticing my ID. Disconnect is a song from the hit game "In the Groove" which I used to play a lot.
I've never been to a Sedona seminar. I bought the book for $17 at a book store, and enjoy using the method. It works for me in my daily life, and I am grateful I found it.
Ellen, you called the Sedona Method a "mind-numbing and stupifying, covertly orchestrated program of pseudo-psychological manipulation designed by con-artists to destroy your ability to think critically." I think that's a cheap shot.
Carl Jung once said "The healthy man does not torture others - generally it is the tortured who turn into torturers." It sounds like your spouses were abused in some way at one time. The best thing they can do is to stop projecting their happiness onto others at seminars.
don't seem to be getting the hang of this posting .. but my observations are that elena's response to disconnect is pretty accurate ... the kernal of truth & value in these releasing programs seems to be easily warped and twisted to create an imbalance in life for the "rabid" adherents ... the focus shifts to SELF and any consideration for others, and the agony that might be rippling outward is ignored ...
critical thought is lost and a "faith-like" acceptance for the pseudo-psychology of "releasing" adopted, making any rationale discussion impossible or resulting in a widening gap with "non-releasing" loved ones when the "faith" is threateded or questioned too much ...
there is no intended malevolence, or outright intent to harm as the family finances crumble the family breaks apart (they will often argue that the "investment" in releasing will pay off with more money and a happier family) - its just that they become "addicted" to the releasing path, the euphoria of the retreats and often with the emotional "connecedness" of the releasing partner(s) and can see no other way to achieve ? ... riches, awareness, success ....?
But life has different pathes for all, its just that its always hard, and there is some agony and hurt ,when a relationship fails and a family to folds, no matter what the cause ...
Stop trying to be so clever!
Larry Crane puts it really well with a statement that you can use when your ego is telling you of all the different avenues that you can follow. "Could I let go of trying to be so clever and allow it to be other than what I think it is?" I certainly came across this when I began releasing. My ego began to tell me that perhaps this release technique was a cult, meditation was a cult, [this group] was a cult, I had never seen [the head of this group], what were his nefarious plans. 'Hey', my ego would say ' you are far more clever than that. I'm just warning you, looking out for you. So, ok, perhaps you do feel better. But that's probably what 'they' want you to feel.It's probably temporary. Maybe Larry Crane is the head of a cult' and on and on it would go. I even found myself looking in Google for "Release Technique Cult" and I found a bulletin board mentioning the very thing, accusing Larry Crane of running a cult! Boy, was my ego happy! Perhaps it could be found in another technique? Bob Proctor? James Arthur Ray? Ram Dass? Ok! Ok!
"Could I let go of trying to be so clever and allow it to be other than what I think it is?"
My ego shuts up and I find myself in a place where I allow myself to be.
It has been 6 weeks since my (now estranged ) husband went to this mind control camp. That must be about how long it takes for people to start questioning whether it is working because today came a newsletter about "getting back on track".
"Our ego is extremely clever. It has a knack for stopping us from Releasing and protecting its negative programs." Ego will "tell us 'releasing isn't working' when it is - just so we'll stop dismantling the limiting programs."
If it's working so darn well, why would people start to think it's not working?
When you mind and your feelings and the condition of your life are telling you it's not working - maybe it's because it doesn't work.
So what's in it for Larry? Well, if he can get you to doubt yourself again - just when you were starting to doubt Larry, he's got a whole catalog of more stuff to sell you to knock out that inner truth that is telling you this is a scam.