Oist,
Thank you for your input. I agree with you that some of the tools can be helpful. However, I don't think a good therapist would teach a client to "release" feelings without identifying them and dealing with any underlying issues.
I share your concerns about some of the philosophy. (And I realize that Sedona Method may differ from the Release Technique.) One thing I read in the Sedona Method book that concerned me was about guilt. I think the author said that guilt never helped anyone change anything. It then went on to give an example of eating ice cream when you are dieting.
First, I think the author failed to distinguish feelings of guilt from feelings of shame. I agree that shame, i.e. the feeling that one is inherently defective in some way, is not helpful. Appropriate guilt when we have hurt another person, on the other hand, is a good thing. Feeling appropriate guilt has definitely changed my behavior when I have realize I insensitively hurt another person. I shudder to think about a child molester who might start to feel a bit guilty telling himself that "guilt is useless" and then just releasing the feelings.
Release technique also presents imperturability or "hootlessness" as the optimum state to be achieved. In my opinion, the world needs more perturable people who give a hoot. All good social change occurs because people are perturbed and take appropriate action for change. Thank heaven Ghandi was perturbed, that Rosa Parks was perturbed, and so on. All that is needed for evil to flourish is for people to become "hootless".
I appreciate your point that
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. Unfortunately, people would use this as a way of not taking responsibility for their actions, and it also made any kind of communication or resolution impossible - if you didn't like what the other person had done, you just had to release on it - therefore, people could use it as a scapegoat for their behaviour."
Issues aren't resolved between my husband and I any longer. It used to be that if there was a squabble, we'd get back together, hear each other out and resolve the matter. Now he just goes off, (often to talk with the RT people) and then comes out all vacantly happy faced like nothing happend. It doesn't feel like there is any connection. He seems like a different person.
My husband tells me that he has been taught that the mind is your enemy. That once you release your feelings, stop listening to the mind, and get past your resistence, everything will come to you from your "beingness". My husband's "beingness" sounds like a string of Release Technique jargon.
Thanks for posting. If you are so inclined, I would appreciate any suggestions you could give me about how to approach that person walking around in my husband's body.